He can't go on thinking that it would "negatively hurt his children". Sure, maybe his children will be upset by it. No child ever wants their parents to get a divorce. But they will grow up and mature and realize that not every marriage is meant to be. They will get over it sooner or later. Besides, children sense these types of things.
They know when their parents aren't happy and they will understand in time. One thing parents make the mistake of doing is telling their children the reason for the divorce.
I have seen it over and over again. Yes, parents can be spiteful and they will say things but if they are young, the kids, then they need to keep it to themselves because children talk.
Ever heard the song "Skip A Rope"? It's by Jimmy Dean it was in the 60's. Skip a rope, skip a rope Aw listen to the children while they play Now ain't it kinda funny what the children say? Skip a rope, skip a rope Daddy hates mama mama hates dad Last night you should've heard the fight they had Gave little sister another bad dream she woke us all up with a terrible scream Skip a rope skip a rope Aw listen to the chilren while they play Now ain't it kinda funny what the children say?
Skip a rope, skip a rope Cheat on your taxes don't be a fool Now what was that they said about the golden rule Well never mind the rules just play to win And hate your neighbor for the shade of his skin Skip a rope, skip a rope Aw listen to the chilren while they play Now ain't it kinda funny what the children say Skip a rope, skip a rope Stab 'em in the back that's the name of the game Mama and daddy are the ones to blame Skip a rope, skip a rope Just listen to your children while they play It's not really funny what your children say Skip a rope, skip a rope, skip a rope Adults also make the assumption that kids don't understand "grown up talk".
When I was 5 I knew that my father was having an affair and I remember clearly the things my mother said to him and his girlfriend and the things thatthe woman said to her. They stayed together becasue my father truly did love my mother. They have been together for 19 years. She is 38 and my dad is Truth is, his children will get accostumed to it. They will get used to it.
But if he loves you and he doesn't love his wife then he needs to leave her before it gets nasty. If he waits any longer and she finds out all hell will break lose. Good luck to the both of you.