Plot synopsis[ edit ] Buffy and Willow criticize their bright green dresses and talk about the rehearsal dinner from the night before. It was explained that Anya's friends are circus people, which explains their very odd appearances and surprisingly, the Harris family bought it.
Willow has the honor of best man and Buffy, Dawn , and Tara are bridesmaids. Anya hugs both girls in excitement about their gowns, which she of course loves. Xander tries to get dressed with his family and Anya's demon friends invading his apartment.
Xander's parents arrive and Mrs. Harris rants about not being in the wedding pictures and Mr. Harris bluntly expresses his distaste for the "circus people" on Anya's side. Xander's cousin Carol asks Xander if Anya's demon friend Kroven would be interested in dating her.
Outside on the streets of Sunnydale, an old man appears out of thin air and walks off, a purpose in mind. Buffy forces Xander into his cummerbund and works on his bow tie while offering her happy wishes to Xander on his special day.
Tara and Willow button Anya into her dress while the bride-to-be rehearses her vows, excitedly talking about how happy she is. Xander's Uncle Rory formerly an unseen character about whom Xander occasionally related anecdotes shows off his "date" to Dawn, but his date is actually just one of the caterers. D'Hoffryn arrives along with Halfrek and Dawn greets them at the door. D'Hoffryn offers his very alive wedding gift in a box to Dawn.
Dawn continues to mingle through the crowd and encounters Spike with a goth date. Finally ready, Buffy and Xander proceed toward the crowd of mingling guests while reviewing the tasks necessary to keep Xander's parents out of trouble.
Xander greets people and is suddenly assaulted by people complaining about problems. Xander's drunken father offers a toast to the waiting wedding attendees and insults the demons on Anya's side of the "family. Harris and one of the demons, Buffy pulls the drunk man away.
The old man in a trench coat drags Xander away from the others and explains that he is Xander Harris from the future, and the wedding cannot take place.
As proof, he shows the younger Xander a crystal ball that will show Xander his future. In a view of the future, Xander sits watching TV, yelling at Anya while their son runs around teasing their daughter, who is clearly part demon.
Anya explains that she's going to make money while he sits around wounded and worthless. An argument breaks out as they talk about how he got injured helping Buffy, although that didn't save her life. In a later scene, Xander, Anya and their two now-teenage kids eat at a restaurant while the teens fight and Anya bitterly notes Xander's drinking. Years later, in their kitchen, Anya yells at Xander for ruining her life and blames him for her misery. He yells back, raising a frying pan - but the vision of the future abruptly ends as he hurls the pan at her.
Xander, shocked by the visions, is warned by the old man not to marry Anya. Buffy finds Spike alone and the two talk about the wedding and Spike's attempt to make her jealous with his date.
After he finds that his efforts worked, Spike realizes it's best to just leave and takes his date away. Willow runs into Xander in the kitchen and offers the final "best man" talk then leaves him to practice his vows. Anya continues to go over her vows in front of Tara, who advises against using the term "sex poodle". As the music begins, Buffy arrives to get Anya, but Willow pulls her out of the room and breaks the news that Xander is gone.
Stalling while Willow looks for Xander, Buffy uses the excuse that the minister is also a doctor and the ceremony will be delayed while he performs an emergency c-section. Anya tries her vows one more time while elsewhere, Xander walks away in the rain.
Harris head back to the bar, complaining about Anya ruining the wedding. Buffy tries to stall the crowd with charades and juggling as Dawn chats outside with a teenage demon and both compare their embarrassing family and friends. Impatient, Anya heads out towards the wedding crowd, determined to get on with the wedding. The news that Xander is gone is accidentally spilled to Anya as Dawn talks to the demon teen and Anya freaks out.
Harris and other demons begin to argue and then a huge fight breaks out between the two sides of the wedding guests. Tara gets caught up in the battle, but Willow rescues her. Cousin Carol directs Anya to the man in the trench coat and Anya talks to him about what he did to scare Xander off.
She finds that he is really a man whom she transformed into a demon many years ago, who now seeks revenge against her. He showed Xander false images about his future to ruin Anya's wedding. She begins to cry and the demon strikes out at her, prompting Buffy to get involved. Buffy starts to attack the demon and Xander arrives to help save Anya.
Anya explains to Xander that he saw only lies in those visions, but Xander isn't exactly relieved. Buffy and Xander finish the demon off and the crowd cheers.
Fighting continues, but Anya breaks it up and everyone returns to his or her seats. Xander and Anya talk privately before the ceremony and Xander explains that he can't marry her.
Motivated by the fear of turning into an abusive drunk like his father, Xander refuses to allow himself the opportunity to marry Anya and ever hurt her in that way.
Anya tries to convince him otherwise, but fails, and sadly, the two part ways. Buffy, Willow and Dawn sit around at the house and talk about what happened with Xander and Anya.
They feel sorry for both of them and wonder where Xander is. Meanwhile, Xander checks into a motel by himself. Devastated, Anya sits alone until D'Hoffryn offers her sympathy, comfort, and her job as a vengeance demon back. Production details[ edit ] Rebecca Rand Kirshner reveals in her DVD commentary of this episode that Anya's reference to herself as a "sex poodle" was a reference to colleague Jane Espenson who had been using the name herself.
Remember Emma in that wedding dress? I got that dress off of her at least four times, because I'd be following her and I'd step on the dress and she'd be pulling it back up.
But she looked gorgeous in that dress. Outstanding Hairstyling for a Series Outstanding Makeup Series Prosthetic Series continuity[ edit ] Despite being mentioned and heard many times through the series this is the first time that Xander's parents are actually shown though a silhouette of Xander's father portrayed by a different actor appears in " Restless ".
After Willow and Xander see each other in formal wear she jokes that it's a good thing she realized she was gay, referring to a previous occasion " Homecoming " where she and Xander saw each other in formals and shared an illicit kiss. Xander's uncle Rory scares a woman at the wedding by informing her that a moose head on the wall is stuffed incorrectly. As seen in the closing credits, the names of Xander and Anya's children in the vision, are Josh and Sara.
They are identified to be 10 and 8 in the first scene, and 21 and 18 in the second. Although Buffy and Willow express surprise that Xander's family believed the claim that Anya's demon friends are merely circus performers, Sunnydale residents, such as the Harrises, have a long history of ignoring or explaining away supernatural occurrences, as Willow's mother did after " Gingerbread ".
As recently as the preceding episode , Riley Finn and his wife convinced Sunnydale residents that a clearly visible demon, mere yards away from some of them, was actually a rogue bear. Arc significance[ edit ] Xander jilts Anya at the altar, which has major implications for Anya's character arc. At the end of this episode, D'Hoffryn suggests that she should reprise her role as a vengeance demon.
The Watcher's Guide 3 reveals cut dialogue which explains Giles' absence: I wish Giles was here. Archived from the original on