I have a confession to make. I pay hard-earned money to meet virtual men. I had a serious live-in boyfriend for several years in my early twenties, and so, while my single friends were out meeting men in bars and partying, I was picking out paint chips in Home Depot and installing new light fixtures in the house.
When that relationship ended amicably, I might add , I was 26 and my once single friends were spending weekends picking out paint chips instead of going out with me! Being Single Again I embraced my singleness, and went date-less for almost a year. I hung out with my girlfriends again, planned my year high school reunion, tried my hand at surfing and explored the world in my kayak.
After a year, a nice guy at a State Park helped me load my kayak onto my car and asked me out. There were no real sparks with the guy, but it was a nice introduction back into the world of dating.
He was the only guy who would ask me out until I started Internet dating a year and a half later. I did not start dating online because I was lonely or desperate. It was more like a dare! One fateful night, one of my still single girlfriends was in the dumps about not having a boyfriend. After several adult beverages, I convinced her to stop feeling sorry for herself, be proactive and put a profile on one of the Internet dating sites.
Just for giggles, I ran the numbers. I have been single for five years. I have gone on dates with 19 different men during that time. But it gets worse. I met 16 of these men online. Without the Internet, my average number of dates would have been 0. A half a date per year! Listen, Internet dating has definitely spiced up my life. I have emailed and talked to two or three times as many men as I have actually gone on a date with.
There is always a little rush of adrenaline when someone new emails you, or you email someone and they actually respond. My friends and co-workers have been fascinated by the steady if slow stream of new guys I go out with. Most of the men I have met in person after chatting on the internet have been nice, interesting, attractive, or some combination of all three. I developed two serious relationships, one with talk of marriage.
Some, I saw only once, but most were interesting or amusing enough that we went out at least twice. Because I at least had a conversation with them all before going out with them, I did go out with all of these guys more than once. But serious relationship material, these men were not. Meeting new people on the Internet has enriched my life.
I have learned new and interesting things from most of the guys I have been out with. I have experienced new things. Because I have been able to date so many diverse men, I have learned more about myself and what I want from my life and my relationships.
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