These writers know how you feel; they are women who have experienced sudden loss and unexpected grief. Bookmark this page so you can return to it later. Reading books can help you cope after your husband dies, which is why I list several books on the grieving process in this article. You might also find grief support groups to be helpful as well — especially if you live alone or spend a great deal of time on your own.
One of the most important tips for starting over in your 60s or at any age is to take it one moment at a time. There is a wellspring of joy hidden in you…and it will bubble up again! Here are a few tips for starting over and rebuilding your life after the death of your husband. Some people change everything about their lives — they move, go back to school, travel, or quit their jobs. Other women want everything to stay exactly the same.
Loved ones can be snatched away without warning. You may always await another loss to befall. Research has shown that widows whose husbands died suddenly are slower to move toward remarriage, since they are unwilling to risk future unanticipated loss again for themselves and their children. Avoidance and anxiety eventually can lead to states of anxious withdrawal since the world has become such a frightening, unpredictable place. Sign up for my free weekly Blossom Tips!
While there is no one way to grieve as a widow, many women respond in similar ways. Starting over in the second half of your life is more stressful and difficult for many women.
This can lead to anxiety and avoidance, which may prolong the healing process. Prepare for the painful hurdle of holidays, anniversaries, and birthdays If the holidays are approaching — or an anniversary or birthday — your grief may intensify. He will never again be part of the celebrations and traditions.
How is your relationship with God? There is no avoiding the holidays, but you can find ways to cope with both the grief that change brings and the stress of the holidays, anniversaries, or birthday celebrations. Recognize that holidays and special occasions will be different from now on. Death has a funny way of making daily life feel inconsequential and meaningless. But, if you want to start over and be a happy, fulfilled woman in your 60s, you need to figure what will make the rest of your life the best of your life.
Life is a grand and glorious experience, and I liken my life to strolling through a sunny meadow, gathering wildflowers of experiences to take back with me.
Knowing that the good, the bad and the ugly all serve a purpose in expanding my awareness makes life meaningful to me, no matter what happens. Connect with other women in their 60s who are starting over I wrote this article because a reader left this comment on Help for Widows and Widowers — A Story of Loss, Survival, and Peace: I was with him for 30 years and we did everything together.
I feel like I lost my identity. I never thought this would happen to me. I feel so alone. My husband did everything for me and now I have the responsibility of running it all. I miss him a lot. It depends on your personality, lifestyle, and family members. Addie and Louis embark on an unlikely friendship, an antidote to the loneliness they most exquisitely felt at night.
As a 77 year old woman, I have many friends who have gone through that, and the most difficult issue is needing someone to spend time with. This book is a lovely depiction of how they try to deal with their situation. Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman is an active daily way to process your grief and healing after our husband dies. Grieving is an active process that takes time and energy; this book will walk you through the worst of it.
Then I would write my feelings directly on the page. It is so good to have a record of my grief as well as having some guidance to deal with it in the best way possible. I wrote in a difference color on the page so I would know which year was which. Get help starting over. They figured out how to start over and create new lives when their old ones died. You may find comfort and joy, support and healing. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid.
Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.