Hip Hop Dating Guide Goals The activities showcased in this Activity Book are designed to assist young people in learning how to date safely and enjoyably by getting to know themselves and their dating partners, preventing relationship drama, and gaining a better understanding of the kind of person they would eventually like to marry.
On the whole, these activities will address five separate groups of dating skills, which correspond to the five elements of Hip Hip. The five elements of Hip Hop are used to provide the platform for developing the skills needed in Hip Hop Dating. Each group of activities reflects the essence of the same Hip Hop element. The skills are grouped together so the participants can learn how to use them together.
A graffiti artist creates art, or tag, with nothing but a spray can and a blank wall. The tag changes form all the time as the artist works on it, and it also conforms to the available space—it is not rigid or predetermined. Like tagging, developing a relationship is a creative and fluid process. A person must first get to know who he or she is, then be able to adapt and change as the relationship develops.
There is no set of standard behaviors that work with every person. All people are different. Culture, religion, economic status, gender, and birth order affect the blending process as two people begin to merge their lives together. Some people even believe that your birth sign can play a role in that process.
Therefore good daters need to be skilled at understanding, evaluating, and developing a different approach to each dating situation. They need to be able to make adjustments in their behavior as they learn about and understand the other person better. Beatboxing Sensing the Vibe, or Awareness In this element the person becomes an instrument, using his or her mouth to create a rhythm and a beat. Beatboxing is the foundation for the rest of the other elements.
Human interaction is both physical and mental. The process of going on dates and sharing your thoughts and ideas can be very revealing and even a little scary. Even though dating is supposed to be light and fun, strong feelings can develop in a very short period of time. This is especially helpful in recognizing dating predators, or people who may be dishonest or dangerous. Often, dating involves sexual activity, and that carries the risk of disease and unplanned pregnancy.
This can have distressing and sometimes life-long consequences. There are also people who exploit the dating process as a semi-marriage, demanding financial support from the people they date.
Good daters are alert, engaged and aware of these dangers and know how to protect themselves from disease and emotional and financial exploitation.
The hip hopper will write a poem that has a strong rhythm and beat, called a rap, and perform it in front of an audience. The rap has to have a relatable message. This element exercises the skill of talking and listening, or communication.
Learning how to be an effective communicator is one of the most important skills you can develop. Happy relationships are made strong through effective communication. Being able to communicate is a skill you will need throughout the dating process and beyond.
Today, verbal communication is being replaced by more and more technological forms of communication, like texting.
While convenient, texting can make reading the other person and reacting appropriately to them difficult, and can lead to misunderstanding and drama. Even walking up to someone and starting a conversation is becoming a lost art. Learning how to communicate skillfully face-toface will make you stand out—and give you a leg up on the competition. DJ-ing Analyzing Connection This is the element that combines the beat and rap and spins it in a way that creates an endless dance party.
Smart dating is not something most people know how to do instinctively. It is something that needs to be both learned and learned from. Most people learn bits and pieces as they go on dates and have relationships. However, learning this way is slow and inefficient, and even painful. Losing a relationship, getting frustrated, or having hurt feelings may teach you something, but it would be much better to know how to handle these bumps by preparing yourself.
Dancing Cooperation This is the element of interaction. The hip hopper creates an original dance that is exciting and entertaining. Dating is the testing of two sets of beliefs and philosophies against each other.
There is a wide variety of beliefs and expectations about the roles of boyfriends and girlfriends, including roles in sex. You need to be prepared to explain your beliefs about these subjects and be ready to learn those of the person you date.
One of the most difficult obstacles is having unrealistic expectations. Understanding our core beliefs will help us recognize those who share our principles and believe similarly.
Hip Hop Cipher Session Ground Rules A cipher is a type of gathering where people share information about a certain subject. It is also used by freestyle rappers to practice their improvisational rhymes in an informal context. The cipher rules below also apply to learning dating skills in a group setting: Respect yourself, the people in the group, and the group in general.
Share your thoughts and feelings. No one benefits from quiet group participants. What is said in session is personal and stays in the group.
No jokes about group members. Everyone has something valuable to say. No one knows everything. There is no such thing as a stupid comment, just an off-subject one. Get ready to learn something new. Think forward and be solution-driven. There is a solution to every problem.