Or she might tolerate the friendship but keep a pretty close eye on it. But she doesn't hate you. She hates you when she can tell that his feelings for you are not merely platonic ones.
Your feelings might be platonic, but women are extremely good at picking up on those sort of vibes as you probably know. It might be the amount of time he spends with you or talks to you on the phone.
Or maybe it's the way he talks about you or how happy he looks when he gets home from hanging out with you. She knows and she doesn't like it. Of course many women hate other women for being attractive instead of their boyfriends for carrying out behavior that makes them feel insecure. Maybe she tried to talk to him about it but he was adamant that you're staying in his life and she would just have to deal with it.
People who have feelings usually make more eye contact of the extended variety. People who don't tend to avoid making that kind of eye contact since it can send the wrong message. He looks you in the eye when you're talking because he's really listening to you, and he looks happy listening to you because he is.
There's a difference in the way that people look at other when they have feelings versus when they don't, and it's usually also obvious to other people who are around it. If you ever catch him staring at you in a way that makes you blush or feel slightly put on display then odds are good that he's totally checking you out if not madly in love with you already. If you can feel that then it's there. This usually only works out long term if there was zero chemistry to begin with, and it was a total joke that you ever tried dating.
Like you met on Tinder and immediately realized you were meant to be besties. If you were ever truly in like with one another or having good bedroom fun that just doesn't go away entirely just because one or both of you decided that they didn't want a relationship.
Sometimes it's totally one sided but more often than not both people are carrying some residual feelings. If you were attracted to someone once why would you not still think that they're cute when they laugh or get thrown when they lean close to you and smell good? If he wanted you once there's a part of him that feels complicated about his feelings for you now.
You've noticed that when you do go places with him he introduces you like he's proud of you, which when you think about it is an interesting move. You probably don't introduce your best girl friend like you're proud of her. You might introduce her to someone with a similar interest or career so that she can network but you're not feeling proud of her accomplishments like they have something to do with you. There's a part of him that does feel like your accomplishments have something to do with him because he's been around during your growth and maybe even been a part of it.
He'd be honored to be linked to you and he's already naturally projecting that he wants to be. People tend to assume that you're a couple because of this. He actually stays by your side and focuses on you This is an important thing to note.
If you were out with your best friend you would mostly be focusing on one another and chatting, but not if some guy came up and started hitting on you. She would either let him into the conversation or give you some space to talk to the person.
But if this isn't what's happening when you're out with your guy friend then he probably doesn't think of you as just a friend. If a guy was checking you out while you were with him he might even get the vibe that you two were a couple and not bother talking to you. If someone did come up to you your friend couldn't exactly turn him away on your behalf, but he might not back down either. We're not talking about a situation where someone is embarrassed to be seen with you or anything like that.
We're talking about one where he likes you so much that it's sort of overwhelming to spend that sort of time together. When you like someone it feels couple-y to do things like go out to eat or even go shopping. But when you introduce bars and alcohol into the picture sometimes things can get a little weirder.
He might not want to accidentally say anything that he shouldn't be saying. Or he might like the feeling of being with you so much that it's kind of hard on him to go home at the end of the day and deal with the fact that you're not actually his girlfriend. Friends are casual about hanging out. People who have emotions involved are not always quite as casual about it.
He wants to know everything about who you are so he remembers small details about your life. He pays attention to what makes you laugh and can anticipate why you'll like something or you won't. He has a running list of shows and movies that he thinks that you'll like and he's right. He knows you so well that he knows how to turn your mood around and make you feel better in an instant. He knows all of this and lets you know that he does because he has feelings for you.
He's thinking about you when he's not with you and he's also totally focused on you when he is. This goes way beyond friend behavior, this is boyfriend behavior. He's incredibly invested in you as well as the relationship that you have, even if it's not at the level that he's hoping for. They're either hearing this directly from him or they're picking it up based on his behavior. Whether that's how he acts when he's around you or how he talks about you to them when you're not around. Other people are often even better than you might be at picking up on these signs because they're observing from the outside and not emotionally involved in the situation.
You might have reason to deny that he likes you. If you're in a relationship or you don't have feelings for him you might try to ignore the possibility completely. But your mutual friends or other people who see you guys interacting might see it plain as day since they don't have any reason not to. They're mentioning it because they think you should know. So what are you going to do about it?!
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