I think the only concerning point is 3 - is that frequent? In my own relationship at 5. However - even now,almost at 14 months my family still don't know about him - for similar reasons to yours and other problems in my family. IMO it is too early for 4. For the pictures - that's not a sign of anything Just some people dislike taking pictures of themselves or other people, I'd probably leave my BF if he wanted to post pictures on FB with me, I find it ultra cheesy Quote: Originally Posted by JiltedJane I've been dating my guy for 5.
Overall, he makes me very happy. I know I'm falling in love, but there are a few things that worry me or have me questioning if our relationship is normal. Over the past few months a few of my cousins and closest friends have started relationships at either the same time or a few months later-but they seem to be going at a much faster pace. They've met eachother's families, go on trips, take pics together, etc. My relationship-although progressing- feels like its going at a glacial speed.
We are both in our thirties, have great jobs, no kids, both never married, have our own hobbies and a large circle of friends. I'll give my lists of pros and cons below. His parents don't know about me. Mine don't know either because they try to get overly involved. We have had this discussion about how we both have extreme pressure to be married. We have met eachothers siblings though.
No "I love you" 3. Does the rubberband thing where he gets super close and then pulls away 4. Avoids talk about marriage or children 5. No pictures except when we're drunk- he has stated he hates his picture being taken and will back out when his own friends are taking group shots.
Seems reluctant to travel with me when I brought up the idea. Valentines day and my bday pulled out all the stops 2. We never fight, the one time when he sensed me get mad he panicked and had his friends sister talk to me. My main red flags are the fact that he avoids talk on the distant future, meeting the families, and the lack of a verbal "I love you" Am I expecting too much or does this seem on track?