A few of my friends are dealing with this exact situation right now. One of my good friends recently asked me for advice in a total panic. He said he wanted to be her valentine a few days ago, but never brought it up after that.
She wanted to know if she should get him something — and if so, what? Skip this Ad Next Don't Pretend It's Not Happening Some people think that the best way to get through Valentine's Day with someone you just started to hang out with is to ignore the holiday altogether.
Don't do this - it will only make things awkward. You both know it's happening, so why pretend like it isn't? If you don't discuss it at all, you're both going to be left kind of confused and stumped.
I know it's awkward to bring it up, but trust me: Did you literally just start seeing him a week ago? If it's only been weeks, be careful about you approach this. If so, you can totally bring it up, but don't make this a conversation about where you're going at the same time. Are you guys a new, legit couple? Definitely bring it up. There is nothing wrong with talking to him about Valentine's Day - in fact, you should! To make things less awkward, be super casual about it.
But don't be too casual one of my friends just tried saying, "Wanna hang out Thursday? Say something like, "So, no pressure at all, but I was just wondering if we're doing anything for Valentine's Day? Asking is so much better than assuming you're not doing anything or assuming you are.
ShutterStock Buy Him Something Small If you two decide that you're going to celebrate together, buy him something small. If you've only been together for a few weeks, an expensive present is too extravagant.
My boyfriend and I celebrated our first Valentine's Day together after only about three months of dating. I didn't want to put too much pressure on him, so I bought him his favorite candy and a pair of cute boxers. He loved it and it was totally appropriate. Keep Things Low-Key Again, if you decide to celebrate together, keep any date you have low-key.
A lot of guys assume girls want to go all out on Valentine's Day, when really, most of us just want to hang with the person we like. Let him know you don't want to do anything crazy. Restaurants are insane on Valentine's Day, so maybe instead of going out for an expensive meal, you could order in and watch a movie. Or, you could go for a brunch date the next day, since it's on a Friday this year. Just something relaxed, without a lot of pressure. Sometimes girls get all caught up in the romantic-ness of V-Day and expect an elaborate dinner, and gorgeous jewelry.
Realize that in the beginning of the relationship, you might only get a heart box of candy. Valentine's Day doesn't have to be perfect, and it's still nice that he got you anything at all!
Don't read too much into his actions on Valentine's Day. Dudes feel a lot of pressure to do something special for the ladies in their lives, and sometimes that can make them act weird. Don't think you found a dud if he doesn't pull out all the stops. He's probably just as nervous as you are about celebrating such a lovey-dovey day with someone he just started dating. Don't think about what you should be doing or pay attention to the Instagrmas of extravagant presents your friends are posting.
Expensive gifts and outings don't equal love. Are you dating someone new this year? What tips did I forget? Tell me in the comments.