Brush up on your manners, friends. Todays dating culture differs vastly from even five years ago. Everything from texting etiquette to when to become intimate makes for a sometimes-confusing modern dating landscape. Before you venture to add someone else to your life, be sure you have cleaned your own emotional closets.
Nothing destroys even the strongest of connections like pursuing love from a broken place. If there is someone you are interested in, make the move. Waiting for them to approach you is no more significant than if you were to approach first. Life rewards the brave and self-sufficient. Be you—leave your representative at home on your date. All too often we are so afraid of making a bad impression or their not liking us we end up putting on a front when we are on a date.
By being authentic you allow them to get to know the full you—not just the parts you feel keen to show. Do not use communication as a weapon.
There are no rules for when or whom should contact after a date. If you want to reach out and express gratitude or enjoyment for the time spent together, do so! Do not withhold communication or fail to follow up until a certain amount of time has passed as a means of playing a game or otherwise gain the upper hand. Obnoxiousness is not sexy. While open communication is important, this does not mean you should send eight messages for their one.
There is nothing more annoying than having several messages waiting for you before you can even reply to one. All too often we enter into a new connection and become consumed by it. We stop visiting our friends and doing the things that lend fortification to our foundation.
You must maintain a life that is entirely your own and offers you support outside of a relationship. Being Facebook friends is great. I totally get the hunger to know someone better, especially at the beginning of a connection. Nothing is creepier, however, than stalking a potential mate on social media.
While this may not seem all that modern, it can be when taken in context of current trends. These days more relationships start from what were once casual affairs—meaning that the sex came before anything else. While there is nothing wrong with this per say, it does complicate things when we introduce the hormone surge from physical intimacy that can sometimes cloud our vision.
This clouded vision can make us more inclined to make choices based on innate chemical responses rather than true potential. Date for the fun of it, not the destination. A sense of spaciousness where the journey is in this moment is just as much appreciated as a potential destination, which makes for a much more fun, relaxed, and enjoyable dating experience. Honor yourself first and foremost. Take time to pause and center yourself to see how your body and internal guidance system are calling you.
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