I still wear sweatpants and watch a lot of Netflix, but my heart has been restored. After my super painful breakup last year, I did what I always do: Leave it to the fates to land me in a new relationship exactly a year and four days after my last breakup.
It's really difficult to let go of things that happened in the past, especially if you had a bad relationship with someone else. But if you're getting into a new relationship, you should be at a point where you've truly moved on from the crappy stuff of the past. If you want to have a successful relationship, do not compare your new partner to your old ones, whether it's something good or bad.
You're only hurting yourself and the relationship if you do so. Shutterstock Work On Trusting Them Trust is something that certainly takes time to build, but in order to trust your new partner, you have to be open to trusting them. If you have trust issues, this can be a tough one, but you have to let it happen.
You can't maintain a relationship with someone if you don't trust them or they don't trust you. Do your best to take what they say and believe them. Don't snoop, and don't assume they're not trustworthy without even trying to trust them first. Shutterstock Make A Habit Of Communicating Communication is one of the key elements to a happy and successful relationship, and it's really important to start communicating early.
If you get into the habit and routine of communicating honestly and openly with each other at the beginning of your relationship, you'll always do it. If you see your boo every day at school, keep up the conversation later in the evening a few times a week if you're not hanging out. If you don't see your partner a lot, it's even more important to communicate. You don't have to talk about super deep things, but it really helps to talk about your day and let them know what's going on in your world and vice versa.
You also need to be comfortable with talking to each other about any issues or problems. Your partner doesn't always have to help you through something, but they should be there to listen. And you should do the same for them!
Shutterstock Keep Flirting Just because you're now in a relationship with someone doesn't mean it's game over. To keep your relationship fresh and fun, you can't just stop flirting and trying to woo your partner. If you stop flirting, your relationship is going to get super boring and mundane. Don't let that happen! Keep doing the things you were doing before you put a title on it like sending flirty texts and such. Shutterstock Don't Look For Flaws This is one of my biggest issues because I get scared when I'm dating someone so I look for flaws that will give me a reason not to date that person.
It's a terrible thing to do, especially if you really like and care about someone. Don't hunt for something to be wrong because you will find something ridiculous that actually doesn't matter.
Now, if you find a legit red flag that concerns you, that's different. But don't start thinking your new boyfriend or girlfriend isn't right for you just because they eat their pizza backwards or something. Shutterstock Don't Be Afraid Of Fighting Fights and arguments are a completely normal part of any relationship, and they will happen.
You're never going to have a completely argument-free relationship, and it's not realistic to expect that. I'm not saying you should anticipate having a screaming match with your new boo, but you probably will argue about something. You need to know how to deal with that. Don't think your relationship is doomed just because you have a little tiff. Shutterstock Take Your Time I know it seems like you have zero time, but you actually have a lot of it. When you're dating someone new, take your time with them and really get to know them.
It's easy to get caught up and move quickly and get super serious. Your relationship will be so much better and will last if you put in the time to really get to know the person you're with. Shutterstock Don't Forget About Yourself One of the biggest problems I usually have in relationships is remembering to take time for myself.
Spending every second with your significant other is a really good way to ensure your relationship will implode. Make sure you're still taking time for yourself and doing things you love to do on your own. Each of you need to maintain some "me" time! Shutterstock Keep Up With Your Friends When you start dating a new person, you pretty much want to spend all of your time with them because you're obsessed with their adorable face.
The last thing you want to do though is abandon your friends just because you have a new boyfriend or girlfriend. Friendships are so important to maintain when you're in a relationship because if it doesn't work out, your friends are still going to be there. But if you ditch them for your new BF or GF all the time, they're probably going to be annoyed. Think about how many times some of your friends have blown you off to be with their partner. Don't be that girl. Shutterstock Relax At the beginning of a relationship, you might still be pretty nervous around your partner.
I'm still a mess when I see my boyfriend because he makes me lose all sense of being a normal human. You're probably going to worry about things you've said or wonder why this person has decided to date you.
These are normal thoughts, and you're not alone in that. Do your best to just chill out and be yourself! The second you ease up on yourself, the easier being in a relationship will be for you. Shutterstock What tips do you have for being in a new relationship? Tell us in the comments below!