But at 16, I feel she is still too young for that. Oyebode said the issue of allowing her daughter go on dates has led to a series of heated discussions between them. Ever since she turned 16, she thinks she is now old enough for such. What does she know at 16? Folusho Alimi, said even though she had reservations initially, she allowed her daughter to start dating officially when she turned They felt I was being too soft on my daughter.
The mother said she set ground rules for dating recently. Some experts recommend that 16 should be the appropriate age for teenagers to start going on a one-on-one dating. However, a psychologist at the University of Nigeria, Nsukka, Mr.
Orijiakor Tochukwu, believes that when it comes to teens and dating, the higher the age, the better. Tochukwu noted that the maturity levels of the child should be the most important factor in deciding when that child should be allowed to start dating. By then, he or she is mature enough to make decisions. However, I think parents should spend more time educating their children about sex and what it entails. Times or trends are changing across the globe. Some countries are campaigning that the age of consent to sex should be reduced to They believe that at their age, children are aware about relationships and sex.
This is attributed to several factors such as exposure to all kinds of information in a technology-driven age. But what if her male partner has wrong motives? Does she know what to do if her dating partner asks her to have sexual intercourse with him while on their date? But he noted that having the conversation is important.
However, an associate professor in Psychology, Uzondu Nwachinemere, said he does not support putting an age limit for dating because it would create room for misbehaviour. Instead, he advised that parents should spend more time in schooling their teenage children on the pros and cons of dating at an early age, especially when the teenager is not mature enough. Hence, teenagers should not be allowed to go out on one-on-one dates. Once you give them a particular age in which they can go on date, they would go overboard.
I believe teenagers should not be concerned about dating until they are much older and are young adults. For now, they should have their minds focused on their academics, until they are mature enough to make wise decisions on their own.
Teenagers have no business looking for whom to marry. Once a person has found someone to marry; he or she no longer dates. In his view, the appropriate dating age should be At that age, he noted, a person is mature enough to be responsible for making decisions on their own. Mbah advised parents to protect their teenage children from pain that comes from heartbreak or dating gone awry by educating them properly.
But many teenage relationships lead to major heartbreak and pain. Dating and relationships gone bad are harder to deal with when one is not physically and emotionally ready to handle them. This material, and other digital content on this website, may not be reproduced, published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed in whole or in part without prior express written permission from PUNCH.