Sometimes you share it. Sometimes you act on it. But without fail, you will have it. A little rough sex after hours, or some domination with silky ties for blindfolds or fuzzy handcuffs for light bondage will do the trick for most guys. In real life, sex that culminates in playing out these fantasies with a willing partner can lead to a good time in fulfilling these feelings of wanting to dominate sexually. Submission On the other end of the spectrum are men who fantasize about being dominated.
Men are expected to become presidents, owners and entrepreneurs where they lead and conquer in business. They just put their heads down and do their jobs. Many men are not conscious of this deep inner turmoil in a way that they can articulate. In real life, sometimes men feel that they want a threesome rather than foursome or more, because they can control the relationships outside of the bedroom after the sex act is completed.
I hear from my readers who go beyond their threesome fantasies into real life threesomes that the relationships that derive from threesomes often lead to breakups of the original couple. Experienced Women Straight men often fantasize about sex with an older woman who knows her body so well that the sex is incredible because of her ease and absence of inhibition. The older woman usually has her own money and a nicer place than younger women — or even the guy doing the fantasizing — so being wined and dined and whisked up to a private penthouse love shacks is part of the fantasy fun.
Virginal Women The first time is iconic. Religious zealots really like virgins, too! Those who hold the V card hold the object of sexual fantasy. Men fantasize about taking virginity and teaching a student about sex because it puts them in a position of power and on the pedestal to receive adoration. This hand in hand taking and teaching is an attractive and crucial aspect of the virgin sex fantasy.
They see themselves teaching the virgin in the ways of sex. The fantasies make them feel better because in those daydreams they fix the problem of unattainability.
Those women who are off-limits are theirs for the taking in the fantasies. In the fantasies, men are the ones who turn them on and turn them out. Voyeurism Men like to watch. This makes porn a huge hit with men, while more women will prefer novels like Fifty Shades of Grey, which provide a different type of fantasy stimulus.
Voyeurism also makes fantasies about watching sex enjoyable for men. Staying distanced gives the fantasy a feeling of control over the situation. It also helps guys who want to know more about sex learn. Of course, sometimes the fantasies include simply watching.
And others times, the fantasies involve joining in after things heat up. The idea of doing something wrong and getting away with it is what fuels this fantasy. That the "something wrong" is sex makes the fantasy that much hotter. The trifecta is in place. This fantasy works for days for most men because they alternate public transportation with secluded corners of stores and alleys between buildings, making this fantasy one of the most versatile of them all.
This is going on in bathrooms, beneath blankets and in first-class sleeping accommodations. And men who love nature will easily start fantasizing about having sex in the wild. It could be in a sleeping bag on a camping trip, or completely au naturel in the woods, on the beach or at the base of a mountain. Being out in nature without fluffy towels and without even a mattress feels raw and primal, and that makes it hot.
Two Women Men are fascinated by lesbians, especially those who are interested in making out and having sex with their wives and girlfriends. The idea of bringing a woman into the bedroom is a big fantasy for lots of men who are interested in what seems to be exotic, hot and forbidden. Seeing their wife making out with and having sex with another woman — or seeing two women a guy is not involved with whether or not he knows them — is a huge turn-on.
Having these fantasies as your own private source of pleasure is a great way to be sexual and expand your sexual self. Making Your Fantasies A Reality While some fantasies rely on meeting someone who fits the role that you're dirty daydreaming about, dominance and submission bondage play scenarios are something you can act out as long as you have a willing partner.
And once you have enthusiastic consent, the only thing you'll need in order to make that fantasy a reality are a few beginner bondage toys to get you both started. Once you and your woman get comfortable with the basics, these toys can also be used for more intense play — but it's best to start things off slowly and work up to more involved bondage acts together — especially if you're just starting out.
Ready to start shopping? Here are a few products that can help bring your fantasy to life. Sensory deprivation can go a long way in heightening pleasure, especially where bondage play is concerned.
Not knowing where your partner will touch you next adds another layer of excitement to being restrained and dominated, so if she's interested in acting out the submissive fantasy with you, give blindfolding her a try. It might seem like a waste of money to buy rope specifically for bondage play when you likely have something lying around at home that you could use.
But when you're binding your partner, it's important to have the right materials in place to ensure that she doesn't end up getting hurt in the process — especially where rope play is concerned.
This shibari rope is made specifically for bondage, meaning that it won't cause rope burn and is strong enough to hold wrists and ankles in place without hurting. Before you get started, make sure you get familiar with the right way to tie a few bondage knots. If you're looking for a one stop shop for your beginner bondage needs, look no further than this beginner's kit from SportSheets. The ankle and wrist cuffs are adjustable to fit any size, and can attach to anything from chairs to bedposts — or whatever else you and your partner are working with.
Your bondage fantasy likely flows effortlessly in your mind — but trying it out in real life can come with some awkward moments to navigate.
To help steer things in the right direction, why not look at it all as a game? This BDSM kit lets you and your partner roll the dice, landing on different scenarios until you find one that you want to try together. It also comes with a handy bondage sex position guide, and a mild whip to experiment with.