Sat Aug 23, 3: Sun May 18, 8: OC, California HotIce wrote: Well, bro, and I mean this with a lot of respect I hope you know what you're doing! I mean, I hope that you've gotten consistent results with your method. Cuz in a way some of it sounds desperate to me. I haven't gotten many dates from there as I have not put in much effort.
But the girls I have been messaging have not blown me off as much. In the past week I had 2 girls send me messages both went dead and one girl I message that I am still talking to and about to get her number. She is an older woman which is why I am not moving fast. She is also going to be a friend of mine due to her situation. Actually most of them leave it up to the guy to choose, but a few have preferences. Most of them are smart enough to know that a movie is not a good idea, but some still want dinner Plus some girls only want to hang out, so they must be DHVing too.
I mean, who goes on a specifically dating site just to look for friends? Have these chicks heard of Facebook???
I should have mention that things do differ from area to area. I am going by the stuff I have seen from girls in my area and the methods I been working on, plus the stuff I read in the POF forums. Which I know is filled with a lot of AFC guys playing by the "rule" book. But I more read the posts from the females to see what their thinking.
I don't see how hanging out equals DHVing. I never looked at it this way before. But I thought that in a dating frame she puts up more resistance, whereas otherwise she puts up less because you don't look needy, then the sarge feels more natural "things just happened".
Just because she may be willing to date, does that mean that it's helpful to accept that frame? I'm just curious how it works, I'm not dissing your methods. In my experience I had tad better luck with the girls that had dating selected than those with friends or hang out. Okay, ya got me there. Overall in my profile I make myself out to be a funny, high-value, non-needy guy who has some standards and wants more than just a pretty face beauty is common, etc. So I think that part is good.
It's got some decent teasing, attraction material, and DHV spikes in it. Sounds good to me. In a PUA article I read on online dating it said that it is best not to make the profile to long or to short, but in the middle.
Basically it said that you want to create a mini skirt effect with your profile. Where the girl sees the "legs" and is interested and wants to see more. Well I knew choosing "friends" was out of the question. My question is, if you don't tell a girl you pick up in person that you're "going on a date" to avoid triggering her date-frame i. She will still have her guard up, no?:? That's a good question actually. The only real way I can answer it is that when you meet a girl from POF in real life, you basically have to start all over again with her.
So you can easily change your frame from the "dating" on POF to friends or what have you in real life. Yes she may have her guard up as she would be expecting a date. But I think if you don't act like your on a date she will pick up that it was not a date.
She said that when she first meets a guy in real life she does not considered it a date as the first meeting basically acts like a screening to see if she was interested in the guy or not. Plus it allowed her to see how much the guy was lying to her. I basically do the same thing when I meet girls from POF. As my first meet is a sceener and if I am interested or like what I see the next meet is a "date".