Home Essay Never Outdated: Sex and the Single Senior Never Outdated: It was a date. Okay, the worst date. But, I have an idea. Maybe next time you could just go for coffee? It might be easier on your stomach. For better and worse, he was the source of her joys and nightmares, and losing him has only made her more certain that their love is not something she can or will ever find again. At first, she balked at the idea and insisted that if she was meant to meet someone it would happen organically, like at the supermarket while buying groceries.
Especially if she were living in a Hallmark movie. But, as I explained, in this day and age it would simply be common sense to utilize technology to check out who one might expect to find while deciding between a rutabaga and a turnip. She remained resistant until I shared that her ninety-year-old mother had told me her single wish was to see Sue married again. Wanting to please her mother was apparently motivating, prompting Sue to not only approve the JDate profile, but also to sign up for Match.
So far for Sue — not so good. Some of the others have notably been of questionable character: To meet his son. Oh, a piano player. What do you mean it was at a prison? No Sue, you got me. Well, at least he said you were a knockout. I can understand wanting a little nosh every now and then, but who is he planning to stab, Little Debbie?
I thought you said he was sixty-eight. So he lied about his age. The dating situation for seniors is bleak, especially for women like Sue who were raised to save sex for love and marriage. Time may change many things, but values are not likely to undergo reconstruction simply because circumstances seem to warrant revision. I know she was being kind. But, this is where we part ways. Sorry Sue, but I am in my mid-fifties and spent most of my forties single enough to know firsthand that there is little physically sexy about gravity-challenged balls and a wrinkly, sagging behind.
Although senior sex may not be the most aesthetically pleasing activity on the planet to those of the younger generation, it certainly is popular. According to a recent study , 71 percent of men and 51 percent of women in their sixties still have sex regularly. This could be perceived as great news, but as with any pro there must also be a nod to the con. Sexually transmitted diseases are rising among adults 55 and up.
In a recent five-year period, reported cases of both syphilis and chlamydia have increased approximately 43 percent. I am convinced there is someone out there for her who looks like his photos, enjoys music, traveling, long walks on moonlit beaches, and wants to be loved by a good woman with a warm heart.