But after the dust has settled, more often than not you start to see the clues that all wasn't everything it was cracked up to be for a good long while, if not the whole time. And while it could be easy to say that his whirlwind year got the better of him, prompting the demise of his marriage, it seems more likely that their marriage was on shaky ground long beforehand. And with what seemed like at least a restorative split now dissolving into a bitter custody battle, the lines between their happy times and their hard times are really no clearer in hindsight.
News once , describing the moment. According to Thicke, he sang Stevie Wonder 's "Jungle Fever" to Patton whose mom is white and dad is African-American during that first dance, a serenade being one of his go-to romantic moves—and he's never been shy about making a musical scene, including when he titled his first post-split album Paula.
Splash "The funny thing is, in high school she didn't take me to prom because she didn't want everyone to know she was with a white dude because she was president of the Black Student Union," the artist recalled. She didn't want to show up with a white guy. Then he kissed me. Years later, Patton told a story about becoming so convinced that Thicke was cheating on her that she drove to his house and hid outside in the bushes trying to get a glimpse of any shenanigans going on inside.
Where Are They Now? And the worst part was that I got caught. The best part was that I was wrong. It was like, 'You're not a good spy, OK? He was like, 'Come on over, see what's going on. Regardless of what went on behind closed doors that we—or either of them—didn't know about, none of that is to say that they weren't madly in love with each other. It doesn't sell any records. It's critically acclaimed but doesn't sell any records. So the balloon pops, everything that I was afraid of happening.
Then, for the next 3 years I struggled with believing in myself and had some problems and started drinking. Trying to find God. Then right after my album [comes out, Paula decides] that she wants to be an actress, instead of a filmmaker. Now she's doing love scenes, and I have a failed album… but it ended up making me a good man.
Luckily, after 10 years of that, I'm like, 'Oh heck! Go have a good time, see you when you get home. Meanwhile, he and Patton had married on June 11, ; they welcomed son Julian on April 6, Husband and wife starred together in the steamy video for the title track that's about exactly what it sounds like—two people making up after a fight.
I had to kick into gear because I love nobody more than my wife in this world. It was actually wonderful for me. Julian has changed everything—every move I make, I know that it will affect him, his growth and his happiness. She's my mama and I'm her daddy. I even call her Mama and she calls me Daddy. We are that to each other. I've never met a stronger person who stands by their will and their moral values. She is such an amazing human being. Ever since I met her and we were 16 years old and she was the president of the black student union and I was just a silly white boy who didn't understand or have compassion.
I can't walk in your shoes. But, I'm trying baby. You know how much I love you. And I know she wants it because we've been together for 20 years. Yes, Robin Thicke was there, too. Quite frankly, all my friends dance like that with him. He's like the guy that you can dance with, 'cause he's safe!
My wife is an artist first and wife second. She was excited about it right away and loved the video and wanted to watch it like 10 times, then she would jump on my bones. I was like, 'I want to take you down right now. A source told us at the time it was a "non-issue" for the couple; moreover, Patton was apparently at the party in question. Photos Hollywood's Long-Term Couples "You pretty much take it one day at a time," Thicke told Oprah Winfrey in an interview that aired that October , when asked how in the heck they were making it work after 20 years as a couple.
Every day, their thoughts, their desires, their insecurities change every day. I would be lost without her It [celebrity and the fame game] is a lot and there are girls throwing themselves at you and you can really lose touch with any sense of reality when you're a big rock star kind of thing. Life is full of peaks and valleys. They did walk the red carpet and look as cozy as usual at the Grammys on Jan.
AKM-GSI Patton and Thicke didn't look particularly estranged right away, instead holding it together as a family for their son, as they surely intended to do. Thicke immediately went on the romance offensive, dedicating "Lost Without U" to Patton in concert days later and, as he said on stage that night, "trying to get my girl back.
Despite the rampant cheating rumors, which only got more sordid in the wake of their separation, the singer insisted that wasn't why they had split up. There's a long list… I changed, and I got a little too selfish, a little too greedy and little too full of myself. We just weren't happy together anymore and I still had so much I wanted to apologize for, and things I wanted to take responsibility for, so that's pretty much what the album's about.
I should've focused on my personal life first; and even if I wanted to write songs, I shouldn't have tried to sell it, promote it, sing it. I wasn't ready to publicly even speak about it. And that included the Oprah interview. But, he insisted, that didn't make him a chronic liar.
That's why she left me," he also said, adding that he'd been sober as far as any drugs went for eight months, though he still drank alcohol. Patton filed for divorce in October ; the split was finalized in March And then you have to move on and grow from there. It's scary at the beginning. But it's something I'm coming to embrace, knowing that that's really what it is now—learning to love yourself, enjoying your time with your friends and family, and then it will sort itself out.
But I gotta figure all that out I think first. I have to learn that. I always try to only remember what was fun and made me smile. My friend showed me this and it took my breath away. We were babies and we had a beautiful baby. What an amazing time in my life. Celebrating this amazing life we get to live never knowing what's coming next. Love is always the answer. Couples at the Grammys But at some point, the exes' seemingly amicable arrangement broke down. Patton didn't attend the funeral, but she shared a tribute on social media, writing, "I knew Alan since I was 15 years old and he had a tremendous effect on my life.
I loved and respected him so much! So many great memories and laughs together. We will miss him so much! His grandson is quite sure he is still here with us in spirit.
Embrace every moment that comes. Manifest the reality you want. News confirmed that the L. A judge refused, however, to strip Thicke of joint custody and instead the family was started attending therapy together. Sadly, that did not mitigate the situation, and Patton was granted temporary sole custody on Jan. The judge also issued a temporary restraining order that required Thicke to stay away from Patton and Julian.