Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. This covers the spectrum from higher ups at work, love interests, people we don't know at parties, popular people from school or the office, even celebrities. It is natural to feel intimidated sometimes. Often people we look up to or those who we just don't know who seem cool can bring up feelings we harbor about ourselves that we are not good enough, smart enough, interesting enough. The good news is, you are. We are all made from the same source and the truth is -- and this is repeated in many spiritual scriptures "we are all special and we are all not special.
We are also beautifully different from one another, too -- which means all of us have some unique value and flavor to add to a conversation or social setting. If only we really knew and believed this this! Here are some reasons why other people should not intimidate you: It's you, not them. The fear of others is generated within us, not by the person in question.
Realizing this helps us release it. We all have faults, fears and insecurities. Jordan Belfort, the infamous Wolf of Wall Street, said in his memoir, "I'm insecure and humble, and I embarrass easily But I refuse to show it. If I had to choose between embarrassment and death, I'd choose death. So, yeah, I'm a weak, imperfect person. People are just people.
I really found this to be true on three particular, separate occasions. Two were in New York City. One was when I met Kelsey Grammar. As a fan, something took over me and I introduced myself to him with little more than a smile, my name and some words of appreciation for his work.
He was such a gentleman! Kelsey stood up, asked me about myself, introduced me to his wife and thanked me sincerely from stopping by. His wife was nice, too. The other was at a party where I met Rachael Ray. Similarly, I introduced myself and asked a bit about her and her work. She was very warm and chatty and shared her story with me as to how she got started in the culinary business.
It was fascinating and very natural. Most people -- including famous people -- are cool! The third occasion was when I volunteered my number to a cute stranger at a concert in Sydney in He is now my husband!
Other people are nervous, too. You might be intimidating. Ever thought of that? Shyness is misunderstood as aloofness all the time. A friend of a friend of mine who appears standoffish confided in me one night at drinks he is shy and loves it when people interact with him.
When I shared that he does come across as a little aloof he was surprised as it is the opposite of his intention. Sometimes, if you make the first social move and say hello, you might be eradicating two people's nerves.
Or as Arianna Huffington calls it, the "obnoxious roommate in your head What is the worst that can happen? Someone might brush you. As a sales professional that goes to a lot of networking events, I have been brushed more times than I can recall. As far as I am aware, I am still alive and well and certainly more successful as a result of still going for it anyway.
What is the best that can happen? Ah, one of my favorite questions! The possibilities are endless. You might make a new friend, a new career connection or get a date! The opportunities are abundant when you stop allowing fear to get the better of you. Nothing made the need for this article more clear than when someone recently told me that before they met me, they thought I was intimidating.
Super friendly, short, always smiling, girl from a small town, me? Like our values, the qualities that intimidate vary for everyone. Well here is one universal truth, well put by Eleanor Roosevelt, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.