Hey, weighing your options is the mature thing to do, after all. Teenage boys do it all the time. The difference is that older men tend to have a lot more sexual experience than a year-old boy who has more experience with bad amateur porn videos above all else.
If you feel like you're in a situation in which you are expected to do more sexual things that you don't feel comfortable with, this probably isn't the right relationship for you.
If this dude is trying to groom you so that you can keep up with him sexually then this dude blows. Grease Er, Is This Illegal? Hey, so there's this thing called statutory rape and it's actually kind of a big deal. While many states and countries are lenient towards sexual relationships that have a relatively small age difference like, 16 and 18 , anything much bigger than that could lead to some serious trouble if y'all are caught.
Charges can be made, people have to go to court and that cool older guy you're hooking up with might be labeled as a sex offender for the rest of forever.
Hey, he knew the consequences and he decided that he didn't care, but do you want to get wrapped up in all of that? These laws exist for a reason, and they're there to protect young people from predatory jerks. Make sure you're not dating one. If you and your friends are meeting up with dudes in their 20s and you're trying to keep it on the DL, you might be worried about getting caught.
And honestly, as cool as forbidden love sounds, it's often not always worth the anxiety. Power dynamics can be really iffy when you're dating an older dude. Do you feel like a kid compared to your BF? Do you think that your hobbies and opinions aren't valued and are seen as childish? Is this dude you're with literally in a position of power over you, like in a teacher or coach type of way?
This dynamic isn't likely to change. Is this dude into you or is he into teenagers. Sometimes it's you, but usually it's the latter. Think about it like this: You might be mature for your age but is he immature for his?
Immature dudes, no matter how old they are, are the worst. If women his own age aren't giving him the time of day, then that means something. But it's even freakier if he is specifically attracted to high school girls. That attraction doesn't just stop with you.
Are you going to make this dude the star of your cheesy MCM? Are you going to go to school dances with this guy? Are you going to introduce him to your friends without being worried that half of them are going to want to call the police? One thing is certain: As immature as dudes your age can be, there's only one time to have a teen romance and that's now. You're only getting older from here, so you have plenty of time to date an older dude once your teen years are over and trust, they will be in a hot second.
Some Girls Have you dated someone who was much older than you? What was it like? What other Tell us in the comments!