BUT — power over what?! And what kind of power? Power over who gets more hurt? Power in keeping your love to yourself? Power in who makes the first move? Certainty that the man loves her? Certainty that he passes the test?
Also when things get good. We want him to care for us at the deepest level, and love us like no other man could. What their goals are. And to stop just doing things on autopilot. And being on guard often not that you do this; but perhaps some women you know do this?
How can we fulfill our potential, and how can our relationships fulfill their potential if we make it a goal to play ingenuine mind games with a man?!
It depends on the reason and goal behind the game though. I recommend it completely. But for the women who are playing hard to get and have it as a goal to keep certain and in control; they will never find fulfillment. This is what the masculine energy needs to do for the feminine energy. Feminine energy is more changeable. It is driven by emotion in a relationship, whilst the masculine energy is driven more by direction.
However, the very concept that a woman need to seek power in a relationship supersedes her ability to love completely. Which is what a man wants well, ONE of the things a man wants.
Not only does a man want acceptance, he wants a woman who can give him love even when he makes huge mistakes — when he makes a wrong decision! The role of a feminine woman Now, I know that above I said something which will anger some women, but those of you who know my work well know exactly what I mean. A feminine woman is not out there to seek control. Femininity is about opening to and giving love. My next logical statement stemming from this idea of having all the power in a relationship is: There are different types of power.
I think we all want some sort of influence or power or at least, the feeling like we matter, feeling like we can influence the people who matter in our life, and that our opinion and position is noticed and appreciated.
So, what type of power is good, exactly? I think that the power to bring out the best in your man is a good power. I think that the power to give love when we are afraid is true power. I think that the power to show our vulnerabilities is true power.
I think the power to feel comfortable in our femininity and use it for the better is true power. Far from being inspirational and lasting — having the power in the relationship through being chased ends up being a bit of a downer and is short-lived. Both spouses should be playful and enjoy doing this.
I mean the ability to maintain the kind of power quoted above, which is achieved in vain, is short-lived. I think being chased is great — but not for the kind of power that most people would want to be chased for. Most people want power because they want to hold on to their certainty and to protect themselves. Not what we can give or keep to ourselves. That includes the giving of and showing love.
I see no point in having a relationship if you cannot learn to give to the other person. Whether subconsciously or consciously: Many will even risk their lives for the ones they love. We already have the new version of our Commitment Control program. Click here to register and watch the Commitment Masterclass. What is your opinion on power in relationships and dating?