Kristen Vinakmens Relationships 4 online dating rules to help you find your perfect match Feb 2, By: Kristen Vinakmens Share If you're single, looking for love and not online, you might want to get on that, stat! In the quest for romance, more than half of Canadian singles have tried online dating , according to matchmaking heavyweight Match.
While there's no magic recipe for finding "the one," if you're persistent and open, you may discover a treasure in that great big virtual sea. Then, last year, she tried Tinder , sometimes known as a "hookup app," with the goal of meeting three people.
Just because it didn't click the first time doesn't mean it won't click the next. That means a six-month trial and really making an effort, including scheduling online dating time and commiting to meeting as many people as possible. Don't let unrealistic expectations hold you back With the wide pool of potential dates online, it's easy to paint a picture of your ideal mate.
Tick off all of your preferred traits—interests and looks—and you'll narrow the field to perfect-for-you candidates. But stick too closely to that list and you can seriously limit your chances of making a great connection.
Pickiness hasn't helped year-old Nancy MacEachern, a Calgary-based graphic designer. The experience has changed her perspective. Some self-examination and an open mind can go a long way, says Caroline Pukall, a psychology professor at Queen's University in Kingston, Ont.
If you are too picky and you eliminate 95 percent of prospective mates, you might not be ready to date or commit. That may mean reassessing which qualities are must-haves and which are more flexible.
The important thing is an open heart because you never know who you might fall in love with. Use that choice for good There are thousands of dating websites for all types of people—from traditional relationship and dating networks, such as OkCupid and eHarmony , to niche sites devoted to horseback-riding aficionados EquestrianCupid.
Meanwhile, dating apps crop up seemingly every day to meet the needs of singles looking for new friends, a long- or short-term relationship or a quick fling Down is one such app. The problem with the vast selection? A resulting reluctance to narrow your choices to one. Feeling like she was just an "option" led Jennifer Freitas, a year-old single mother from Waterloo, Ont. We may also be less likely to stay in a relationship that isn't good for us.
Take it offline, too The more matches you meet virtually, the more likely you are to find a partner, right? A survey from the Pew Research Center found that one-third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date with someone they met on these sites. Nancy has experienced that, too. When the in-person meeting stalls or doesn't happen at all, it can be frustrating for those who are truly looking to make a connection; it can also make you question the person's authenticity.
If things seem sketchy, trust your instincts and move on. Be honest and up front about what you want. For Nancy's part, she's hoping to meet someone in the real world and has been asking friends to set her up on dates. You have to get into the mindset if you're really ready to find love. Here's how to present your best self: Use a recent flattering photo. Rather than trolling your Facebook feed for photos, Kimberly Moffit, a relationships expert, recommends getting professional natural-looking head shots taken of you smiling.
Be up front about what you're looking for. Whether you want a serious relationship, a casual date or a one-night stand, be open about it. You may run into those who try to "play the system" by stating they're looking for a long-term partner but really just want a fling.
Be specific about your interests. Instead of saying what you think people will want to hear, be clear about hobbies or activities you enjoy, whether that's ice skating or attending the ballet.