More Dates, Not Swipes. I used Bumble in Japan for 1 week straight. First, let me start by saying I like bumble dating app. With a sexy looking UI, bumble is a very easy app to get a hang of. It operates exactly like Tinder and the other hot or not apps except for one huge difference; women MUST initiate the first message with any matches made. Bumble is pretty famous so this is common knowledge now. By restricting male contact through this one rule, bumble attempts to weed out creeps, reduce vulgar or pointless messaging, and aims to boost the quality of each match.
Many of my male friends using bumble have told me they like the concept because if a woman messages a man first that has to be a good sign right? Well, I decided to put bumble to the test to get this concept is really making dates happen. With that said, I used bumble for one week straight with only one goal, swipe right on everyone and score as many dates as physically possible and this was my experience.
Obviously the first step was to upload some quality pictures of myself. I also set my preferences and made sure to max out the age and distance to maximize the amount of people that would soon be introduced to me on my swipe feed. Getting started on bumble takes only 2 minutes to do. The very first thing I noticed was the quality of the women on this app. But what made day one interesting was that in just the first 30 swipes of using bumble I managed to yield 11 matches!
This was very exciting for me because my thinking was if I made 11 matches at least one or two of them should convert into a first date right. I anxiously logged into bumble the following morning to check on my bounty. When I stuck my hand in the honey jar looking to see what sweet goodness was waiting for me I noticed my matches had actually climbed to 14 overnight up 3 more, cool.
At this time, I began responding to my fellow female bumble bees in hopes to get acquainted. As I signed in, I was feeling pretty hopeful considering I had a lot of matches in the chamber, locked and loaded. However, when I double dipped back into the honey jar I noticed 13 of my matches one in which I used the daily extend feature which allows you extend the time period before a match disappears were gone. This was a bummer because I hoped at least some of my matches would message me by the end of day two.
Though these beautiful bees buzzed on away ever so quietly, I was to yield 3 more matches on this day. I was still feeling blue about my slightly empty hive though. How is it that 14 women did not initiate a message? It seemed pretty steep, so I started questioning if these users were even active or not.
I mean why would they swipe right on me if they had no intention of meeting me IRL let alone send a message to see if the honey was compatible? At this time I began having conversations with 3 of my matches who sent me an initial message.
Things stated getting disappointing. Although I managed to make another match happen on this day, I had noticed since day 1 the amount of matches I was yielding was significantly decreasing each day at a time which I found rather bit bizarre considering how I made 16 on day one! Single I am and dates was what I wanted. No matches were made this day. Most of my conversations started looking like this: Ghost 1 Ghost 2 DAY 6. I began losing hope in scoring any dates. To add to this frustration, all of my previous conversations had officially ghosted me completely such a bad feeling when that happens.
Nothing is more frustrating for guys one dating apps when your inbox looks like this after days of heavy usage: They literally all ghosted me! With one day remaining, I decided to stay patient and keep pushing for some dates. I continued playing this dirty little swipe for likes game.
At this point, it had been over three days since I last made a new match. Feeling defeated, there was officially no honey left in the jar, not a drop left for me to taste.
Although it was an interesting week putting bumble to the test, today was the day I through in the towel but not volunterally. What really forced me to raise the white flag and surrender unconditionally was this screen: I swiped a lot.
Posted by Michael Tudda.