So beautiful to have a male perspective. Thanks for sharing, Tyler! I am also in my 30s, having never been in a relationship, never been kissed, and only been on one actual date a blind date, about a year ago. Everything you have written goes thru my mind every. Thank you thank you thank you for these reminders and for being so vulnerable when others like myself feel ashamed. Liesl Bennett So glad to hear it meant a lot, Melissa. It did feel really vulnerable, but the comments have made that feeling lessen…a lot!
Deborah Teat Oh so true. But these truths are ones God continues to remind me of, so graciously. And there are a ton more of us. Valerie Thanks so much for your honesty Liesl! Liesl Bennett Thanks, Valerie! When I was younger I would say I wanted marriage, kids, etc. You want to have people look at you in confusion and bewilderment through that into a conversation.
Pretty much none of my Christian friends know and the ones that do have absolutely no understanding of what to say. My non-Christian friends also have idea what to say. Shel Liesl, that is my story exactly. I never thought it would be this way. Grew up in a christian home, raised in christian school my whole life and went to a christian college.
I though at least in college a first date would happen but no such luck. It was nice to hear that there are others out there in my same situatiion. Thanks for being so open with us. Amy What a wonderful post, thank you for sharing. I can relate to all of what you say.
I have recently been encouraged by reading singleroots and other blogs, many of which offer some great encouragement, but as single Christians, we are a diverse lot, with our own unique stories. I am so encouraged to hear that I am not the only one who feels this way. John Walters III Finding that this brings out light, helps me to see that a relationship was a relationship.
I also see that I had so much fun. There are so many beautiful people in my life. Our idea of things. No worry, His timing. Virgin walks through uncrowded mall in Asics, buys smoothie, never been kissed, except maybe once. Thanks for sharing Liesl. Hey, I am normal after all! I like the idea of starting a club, there are quite a lot of us out there, it would be great to have a forum where we can talk, share stories, encourage each other maybe pray together too!
There is always comfort in knowing and taking to people who relate to your struggles. I love my family and throughly enjoy being an uncle to some amazing girls. I love my church, I love my job in a busy IT centre in a P12 school — interesting and demanding job for an introvert. God has heard it all from me, and had a bit to say back to me over the years. He thankfully has given my a lot of patience. But from me a big thanks for even broaching the subject.
Tracy This goes straight to my heart. I especially love the last line. Ginger This really spoke to my this weekend at a time when I really needed to hear it. Liesl, thank you so much for this article. I am in awe of your courage to be so vulnerable. Please know that writing things like this is never a waste!
It helps to know I am not alone Kay Thank you for this! I really needed to read this.