Negative Aspects of Internet Dating Services It is extremely easy to maintain secrecy online whick makes deceit harder to detect. Daters have to spend just as much time dating online. According to Joe Schwartz there are five different types of people that register for dating services: The dabbler is just filled with curiosity and does not have any real interest in dating, whereas the nester is primarily interested in finding their soul mate and settling down.
The hormone is basically seeking physical attention and the butterfly wants to make a lot of acquaintances. Considering the same multitude of purposes exist in the online realm of dating as well as the real world shows that there are just as many misunderstandings and the same amount of hurt feelings.
Because of this large amounts of people feel led on and eventually lose faith in online dating. For example, if the last person you had an online relationship with turned out to be married you might be more wary in your next online relationship. Although these types of situations could happen in the real world as well, there is still a large difference; simple questions of identity in online relationships can never fully be answered until a meeting in person.
In a relationship in the real world you would typically believe that the name they gave you is correct but in an online relationship there will always be a suspicion that the person is not being completely honest: This woman, though she wanted to believe that her lover was a man, was still worried that he might have lied about his gender and they were in a very serious relationship.
The reason that so many people are hesitant to put their complete trust into an online relationship is because numerous people exaggerate or lie about who they are: I feel more like who I wish I was.
Sherry Turkle, Sociology of Science professor at MIT, believes that this new age of communication provokes people to create another aspect of them to portray online. For example, when filling out a profile for an online dating service most daters will exaggerate their positive attributes to make them more dateable just as the woman above did.
This dual personality leads to trust issues in online relationships. If someone exaggerates who they are in a profile they are not being honest and any relationship that stems from that will lack complete trust and honesty because of these small lies. Even the services themselves state that there are dangers to their service. These different personalities that get created online are only able to survive because there is no accountability in the real world for what we do and say online.
For example, if I meet someone on Matchmaker. This lack of accountability, for some, turns the online world into pure fantasy. In an article by Susan Barnes the appeal of online dating is defined as fantasy: Barnes is not saying that online daters are desperate the same thing happens off the net but she is saying that the fantasy is more likely to happen.
Tim Berners-Lee, creator of the World Wide Web, believed that the web should be used as a mirror to reflect real life and not as a completely different world. An anonymous identity is supposed to protect you from other people on the Internet that might be lying; lying has turned into an accepted behavior on the Internet.
Lying happens so often on Internet dating services that Japan is considering a law that might minimize it. This article also talked about how there is no proven way to regulate Internet dating. Part of this inability to regulate is caused by the lack of physical evidence law enforcement officials would have on an Internet sex offender. For example, if a girl is violated when she first meets someone from the dating service, it would be more difficult to trace the criminal because his identity was probably falsified.
When filling out a profile for an online dating site there is no way that the site can identify your true identity. For a free trial you do not have to submit a photo, address, or even a name. The only information I needed for www. City and zip code are not very specific and e-mail addresses are free from sites such as yahoo. To receive a free e-mail address from yahoo. If a person can acquire a free e-mail address without giving any real information and register for an online dating service with no real information of course there is going to be skepticism from online daters and of course there are going to be people that take advantage of being able to be invisible: This man murdered a year-old girl and might never be found because online dating services allow people to be invisible.
However, there is a way that this can be changed. What if every dating service had to perform a background check on everyone that registered? This background check would not only ensure that someone has not been convicted before but it would also ensure that the name they gave is really who they are.
My idea does not just stop here though; it extends into all aspects of an online dating service.