It never really went anywhere or got serious, because we're both kind of shy and neither of us would make any kind of move. In December though, we decided to give it a serious shot and by January, I had asked her if we were exclusive to which she said, "yes. I told him that was where we first started talking, so it wasn't odd that she had an account I was a little hurt but I figured maybe she's just curious and didn't want to accuse her of anything so I just blew it off.
About 2 months later, the same acquaintance asked if I ever said anything to her, to which I replied, "no. I reactivated my account to see it for myself, and lo and behold she was online. I asked her directly if she was still active on OKC to which she replied, "no. She claimed that while she would occasionally go in to delete messages, she wasn't actively using her account to talk to anyone.
She assured me that wasn't talking to anyone else and that she deactivated her account and so I left it at that. Cut to last week. We were out and about and during a conversation about crazy dates she mentions that she used to use a different dating website in addition to OKC.
I'm sure you can see where this is going. Sure enough, a quick search showed that she had been active within 5 days. I checked again later that night and sure enough she was online. When I asked her about it, she denied having any other active accounts. I told her I could see her online at that moment and she replied that she constantly gets promotional messages that she goes in to delete which doesn't make any sense to me, but I'm a dude so I assume it's different for women on dating sites.
She apologized and told me she wants to keep seeing me and said she doesn't our relationship to end over a misunderstanding. I guess what I'm not seeing is the misunderstanding. I would assume that once you're in a committed relationship, you wouldn't need to keep logging into dating websites especially to just delete messages and why lie about it?
We are supposed to meet up later this week to talk about everything. I do care about her quite a bit we've already used the "L" word and I'd like to keep seeing her I don't want to be the controlling boyfriend who is like, "don't talk to other people!
Delete all your accounts! TLDR; Girlfriend still logs into dating sites after 7 months. Not sure what to do about it.