There is this girl I have known for 8 years and pretty much always had feelings for her and never acted on them and then she disappeared for a bit then I started dating my ex. Well I heard back from her during the breakup and she really helped me out and eventually the feelings came back. The problem was she was not in the country. I accidentally revealed my feelings to her 2 years ago and she told me she does not want long distance and we would discuss it when she got back.
She finally got back a month ago and we could never make solid plans. On New Years she met a guy and had an instant connection and 2 days ago despite not knowing him well and knowing my feelings and hasn't even seen me yet she decided to date him solely because of this instant connection.
There is also more to this story as well. Afew weeks ago she admitted she has been really depressed since she came back and her friends got her into drinking again and she has been drinking a lot due to be depressed. She also admitted while looking for a job she was so stressed she could not sleep.
Which makes me worried she is not thinking straight. She also puts way too much stock in instant connections. She is an it religious and believe they are signs from God. When in reality it was probably some dude who is good at smooth talking. The other problem is I know who this guy is and he is an alcoholic, drug using jerk but since she is in the honeymoon stage right now she does not know this. I also know they have very different views on topics such as sex.
She is no sex till marriage and he is he wants some as soon possible. She also hid him from me till she decided to date him. I took it poorly, and got emotional cause she picked s guy she barely knew over the guy who has been with her through thick and thin.
We are not talking right now. She never replied so I think she is upset with me. It still really hurts. I am not sure how I should handle this. I know right now they are still in the honeymoon phase but I am hoping it does not last too long, I am truthfully worried she only mainly did this due to her current depression and that instant connection thing.
I do think walking away and not talking is good to get my head straight for now.