August 3, Getty Images We live in a society where women are not allowed to age. The good news is, if you happen to be a lesbian, you have a huge advantage when it comes to advancing in years. Lesbians — in part because we are a minority and thus there are fewer of us, and in part because hey, we just really love women — date all over the age spectrum. In our glorious world, women are appreciated and desired at all ages. What that means is that you will very likely, at some point in your life, date someone much older or younger than yourself.
While age gaps can be exciting, they do come with their snafus. And both baby boomers and millennials can just put all that in their pipes and smoke it cause us middle kids, we have been rocking this reality bites motif right up to the latest tech start-up near you.
We are a generation of entrepreneurs, we grew up on MTV, and we wore flannel before it was cool. All that being said, we are also the first generation where there was a lot less pressure to marry young, and putting off career choices and college majors was perfectly acceptable. What this means is a number of us are currently single and ready to mingle. Enter dating a millennial.
You probably came out later in life than she did. Not to sound like a crotchety old man, but let me tell you about the god damn kids these days. Much of the progress and social acceptance of being openly gay happened fairly recently, and it took time for the Stonewall movement to catch up to gay and lesbian characters being represented in movies and on television.
And sometimes that will just irritate the hell out of you. The struggle was real. Giphy How to Cope — Be patient. But like, also remind her of that shit. She needs to know about it. We must learn from history lest it repeat itself, right? But also, delight in the fact that it was easier for her, because progress! You have different cultural references.
This one can be quite amusing, actually. I got to see the nineties through new eyes. For shame, for shame. Giphy How to cope -You have a massive advantage here that no one can deny. And we will never, ever forget finding the hidden track on that one Pearl Jam album. You have serious street cred here. Those badass women never age, really, and besides, YOU were at their concerts when they were in their prime, baby.
She had Taylor Swift. Giphy You are in different phases of life. I most recently very briefly dated someone who was twenty-eight, giving us an eleven year age gap and one gaping mass of separation over one tiny, HUGE issue. We discussed the fact that after graduation, she had plans of applying to grad schools, many of which were across the country.
While moving to a new city can be a grand adventure, chances are you are already settled into your life and career right where you are. But accept that you may live apart for a period of time. Go ahead and let her show you where the cool kids hang. Or walking for more than hour.