By Colleen Crawford , In Dating Every culture has its own customs and traditions when it comes to dating and relationships. If you are interested in dating a Mexican then there may be some things about the dating customs of Mexicans that you should be aware of.
With this being said there are certain parts of the world such as the US in which American customs have somewhat worked to relax the Mexican dating rules. However, there are still a lot of Mexican people in Mexico as well as in the US that still expect their customs to be followed. For this reason, take a few minutes to learn about some of those customs.
It might wind up paying off in the end. Mexican Gender Roles There is no doubt that this is one custom that seems to be prevalent whether you are living in the US and dating a Mexican or living in Mexico. The gender roles are very distinct in Mexican households. The women are taught to be much more soft-spoken and submissive while the men are the dominant figures in the home. This is one reason that you may notice a lot of fighting or arguing happening in mixed relationships, generally when the woman is white or American and the man is Mexican.
American women are not really raised as the submissive creatures that Mexican women are. As a rule, American women seem to be very independent and free spirited and this can cause strife in a relationship in which the man is Mexican and the woman is not.
In the same way it may take an American man some getting used to if he begins dating a Mexican woman who seems to want to cater to his every whim and submit to whatever decisions that he makes.
Of course most men would not complain when faced with that situation. Mexican Flirtation Just about every lady who lives in close proximity to a Mexican community has heard the yelling, whistling and shouting that is sent their way by the Mexican men as they walk by. Yes, Mexican men love to flirt in that way but when it comes to someone they seriously like and would like to date they are usually much more respectful.
Again, with the younger generation and the Americanizing of Mexicans this is not always going to be the case but we are talking about traditional Mexican dating values. Usually a Mexican man will be the first to make the move on the woman he wants to date but he will do it in a very sweet way such as bringing flowers. In addition, most Mexican men will insists on paying for the entire evening and a Mexican woman would very easily become offended or taken a back if asked to pay for her half of the evening when on a date with someone who is not of her culture.
Mexican Displays of Affection Traditionally, Mexicans are not reserved when it comes to showing public displays of affection. They are very tender and sentimental and will not hesitate to hold hands, hug and kiss in public. In some other cultures this is frowned upon and so for some couple who are in a mixed relationship Mexican to Non-Mexican this could cause a little bit of a conflict. One person may be from a conservative Caucasian family who does not believe in public displays of affection while the other is from Mexico and has no trouble showing affection anywhere at all.
In situations like this a compromise may become necessary. With all this being said, and this is also something that has changed a lot with younger generations of Mexicans, sex is not an automatic is no commitment has been made.
Typically Mexicans wait until there is an engagement or even a wedding before they become sexually active when dating. Mexican Men Believe in Providing Mexican men are raised from a very young age to be the sole provider in the home. The woman tends to the children and that man brings the income in.
For most women in the US this would be a dream come true, I do not have to work? I am going to be taken care of?
In this culture it is almost unheard of, at least in younger generations. However, now put a Mexican woman who is used to being provided for in a relationship with a man who is used to his girlfriend paying half the bills each month. It is easy to see how this might not work out very well. What About Mixed Cultural Relationships?
None of this is to say that are not mixed cultural relationships everywhere that work out just fine. The key is in figuring out together what the differences bare in terms of culture and working them out.
The truth is it does not matter who you fall in love with, there is always a way to work out any and all cultural difference. Sometimes it just takes work and patience. Dating Mexicans for the most part is no different than dating anyone else once you learn the customs and traditions they are used to. If two people are really into each other then they will find a way to make their differences work to their advantage so that a sort of harmony can be achieved.
There is no culture on this earth that does not have its own rules and customs. While the US may be the most slack when it comes to dating rules, there are even some things in the US that are considered typical, such as the man paying for the first date or being the first to call. In reality dating is about the same everywhere. Two people meet, they enjoy each other and they find a way to make it work regardless of what kind of odds may be against them.