LinkedIn Up where the world is steep, like in the Andes, people use funicular railroads to get where they need to go — a pair of cable cars connected by a pulley far up the hill. The weight of the one car going down pulls the other up; the two vessels travel in counterbalance. If the years bring me low, they raise my daughter, and, please, so be it.
My girl is two, and I can tell you that nothing makes the arc of time more clear than the creases in the back of your hand as it teaches plump little fingers to count: But some guy having a baby and getting wrinkles is not news. And depending on the next U. So there you go. The bands were basically snottier and less proficient versions of Green Day.
When I go back and listen to them now, the whole phenomenon seems supernatural to me: But at the time, I thought these bands were the shit. And because they were too cool to have posters, I had to settle for arranging their album covers and flyers on my bedroom wall. My parents have long since moved — twice, in fact. Or really what most of it even looked like. I can just remember it and smile, and wince. Moreover, they can do it for all people, not just one guy.
Where he will proceed to paper it over in a billion updates of her eating mush. A new parent is perhaps most sensitive to the milestones of getting older. But the milestones keep coming long after babycenter. Computers, however, have nothing better to do; keeping track is their only job. They just sit there and remember. The myriad phases of our lives, once gone but to memory and the occasional shoebox, are becoming permanent, and as daunting as that may be to everyone with a drunk selfie on Instagram, the opportunity for understanding, if handled carefully, is self-evident.
Also, I was speculating about the research of the future. As hard as it is to believe, even Facebook, touchstone and warhorse that it is, has only been big for about six years. But there are fixed universals that can support it, and, in the data I have, the nexus of beauty, sex, and age is one of them.
Here, the possibility already exists to mark milestones, as well as lay bare vanities and vulnerabilities that were perhaps till now just shades of truth. So doing, we will approach a topic that has consumed authors, painters, philosophers and poets since those vocations existed, perhaps with less art though there is an art to it , but with a new and glinting precision.
Figure 1 lists, for a woman, the age of men she finds most attractive. Reading from the top, we see that and year-old women prefer year-old guys; year-old women like men who are 24, and so on down through the years to women at 50, who we see rate year-olds the highest.
A woman wants a guy to be roughly as old as she is. Pick an age on the left under 40, and the number beside it is always very close. The broad trend comes through better when I let lateral space reflect the progression of the values, as in Figure 2. This particular line brings out two transitions, which coincide with big birthdays.
The first pivot point is at 30, where the trend of the numbers on the right — the ages of the men — crosses below the line, never to cross back. Then at 40, the progression breaks free of the diagonal, going practically straight down for nine years. The two perspectives of the woman doing the rating and of the man being rated are two halves of a whole.
He gets older, and their viewpoint accommodates him. The wrinkles, the nose hair, the renewed commitment to cargo shorts — these are all somehow satisfactory, or at least offset by other virtues. Compare this to the free fall of scores going the other way, from men to women. Figure 3 makes a statement as stark as its own negative space. The four highest-rated female ages are 20, 21, 22 and 23 for every group of guys but one. Again, the geometry speaks: The male pattern runs much deeper than just a preference for year-olds.
And after he hits 30, the latter half of our age range that is, women over 35 might as well not exist. If anything, men in their 20s are the ones who are more willing to date older women.
Hikers just out enjoying a nice day, then bam. The former changes while the latter never does. I get older, they stay the same age. The gray space in Figure 5 is what men tell us they want when asked. Figure 6, identifies the age with the greatest density of contact attempts. These most-messaged ages are described by the darkest gray squares drifting along the left-hand edge of the larger swath. You can almost see the gears turning. Then, one year later … he thinks better of it.
While a nine-year age difference is fine, 10 years is apparently too much. For one thing, social conventions work against it. For another, dating requires reciprocity: What one person wants is only half of the equation. When it comes to women seizing the initiative and reaching out to men, because of the female-to-male attraction ratio we saw at the beginning of the chapter l year: From there, the amount of contact declines, but no faster than the general number of available females itself is shrinking.
Think about it like this: Over the first two decades of his dating life, as he and the women in his pool mature, the ones who are still available will find him as desirable an option as they did when they were all Over the years, she, too, would lose men from her pool to things like marriage, but she would also lose options to time itself as the years passed: Fewer and fewer of the remaining single men would find her attractive.
Her dating pool is like a can with two holes — it drains on the double. The number of single men shrinks rapidly by age: According to the U. Census, there are million single men ages 20 to 24, but only 5-million at 30 to 34, and just 3. For a woman at 20, the actual shape of the dating pool is pictured in Figure 7. Her peers guys in their early twenties form the biggest component, and the numbers slope off rapidly — year-old men, for example, make up only a small part.
They are less likely to actually contact someone so young, despite their privately expressed interest, and in addition many men already have partnered off by that age. By the time the woman is 50, the men left and still interested , are presented on the same scale in Figure 8. Comparing the areas, for every men interested in that year-old, there are only nine looking for someone 30 years older. Women want men to age with them.
And men always head toward youth. A year-old woman will sign up with a dating site, set her age-preference filters at , and begin to browse. That year-old man will come along, set his filters to , and yet rarely contact anyone over Neither finds what they are looking for. The men do seem at sea, pulled to some receding horizon. But in my mind, I see the women still on solid ground, ashore, just watching them disappear. National Post Excerpted from Dataclysm: Reproduced by arrangement with the Publisher.