Cheating — The Other Side of the Coin It took me quite a while to sit down and put this topic into words. Cheating has been one of the main themes of my blog the last few years. But as luck has it, there came a time when I was actually cheated on.
Serge started cheating on me about mid-November and it went on until the beginning of this year. If I were honest, I probably could sense something was wrong straight away, but I only knew for sure he was cheating on me by mid-December. By the time I went away for a weekend trip to Italy with Serge, as my Christmas present to him, I was positive that he was seeing another woman at the same time. During those months, we were going through a rough patch and we also spent quite a while apart because of travelling.
By the time Serge came back from a two-week holiday in November, I could sense that something had changed. So I found out about Laura — as far as I could tell they were dating since mid- November and had met up quite a few times.
Every time I came back everything was exactly where I left it. So for that I was positive. It was so overwhelming, that even now, if I close my eyes for a split second and remember everything, my breath is still cut short and I can still feel the pain.
By this point you are probably wondering why I stayed with him for six more months, until he eventually broke up with me. There were actually a number of sad reasons to that. For one, I thought that he wanted to be with me. And I tried to sneak it into the conversation many times and one way or the other asked him quite a few times whether he was cheating on me. I asked because I wanted him to lie about it. And in a more twisted and masochistic way, I was actually punishing myself. I was seeing a guy that was cheating on his girlfriend with me for years — realistically, what did I expect to happen?
So I stayed and I let Serge cheat on me, because Matt cheated on his girlfriend with me and I deserved to know how that felt. Writing about this feels dumb and stupid, but I just thought that it was karma taking its course on me and I had it coming. After it all ended with it, he finally admitted to it.
Did you ever have a similar experience? Did you stay with a cheating boyfriend and why? Comment and let me know.