Sophie Saint Thomas Sex between two women is a beautiful thing. Unfortunately, there's a lot of misinformation out there. So when two people with vulvas are having sex, I think a lot of folks don't understand how that works since there's no penis. To clarify some misconceptions — and, of course, to give women who have sex with other women some hot ideas — I rounded up a list of fun sex position suggestions.
These aren't just for lesbians! They can be enjoyed by queer women, bisexual women, pansexual women, or even straight-identifying women looking to explore. I identify as queer and bisexual , I've had sex with both men and women, and I'm also attracted to non-binary people.
Since sex between two women is often so fetishized through the male gaze, I made sure to only include positions I've tried and enjoyed or spoken with others who have tried and enjoyed. And I kept the sex position names to the point because I'm trying to help you, not confuse you. Yet this is indeed a roundup of steamy sex positions, so a few might be a little out there — but trust me, they're worth the sore back the next day. Advertisement Another important note: While the article often refers to "women," it's crucial to remember that some women have penises and some vulva-havers the term the brilliant Dr.
Liz often uses in her quotes are men. Read on and enjoy — and check back, because we'll be adding new positions regularly. While we're arguably more in control of and confident about our sexuality than ever, there's still so much we don't know about female arousal. So this month, we're exploring everything you want and need to know about how women get turned on now.
Check out more here. A tried-and-true classic among couples of all genders , ing makes it easy to please both partners. You both get to experience giving and receiving oral — at the same time!
Try switching up who's on top and bottom, or lying sideways to 69 with some variation. Make sure to balance the give and take, since it can be easy to get lost in your own pleasure and slack off on giving to your partner.
The top partner can also lean over to play with the giving partner's clit or finger them, and this position also works as a great segue into ing.
Advertisement 3 of 19 All Tied Up If you and your partner are looking to experiment with something new, try mixing up basic oral or really any position by adding the element of bondage. Use rope, bondage tape , or even a scarf or tie to restrain a partner's hands before going down on them. This added submission can take your oral to the next level. Figure out which of you is into dominance, or switch off tying each other up to pleasure both partners. As with any foray into BDSM , make sure you and your partner discuss this beforehand and figure out each other's comfort levels, and keep communication open throughout the act as well.
This variation helps to open up and allow for deeper penetration that can also better stimulate the G-spot, leading to some body-shaking orgasms, and it's also great if you want to make eye contact.
Try experimenting with different angles until you hit the sweet spot, and incorporate nipple or clit play for added pleasure.
Not seeing your partner's face will heighten other senses — listen to the sounds you both make and concentrate on the way it feels to touch or be touched. Kneeling can also be as intimate as a face-to-face position: Lying back and getting your pussy eaten may not be highly imaginative or daring, but there's a reason it's a go-to classic — it doesn't fail to please.
Besides, it's pretty much instinctual, which means you and your partner won't have any trouble getting into it. Even on inanimate objects, oral can be one of the most rewarding and intimate parts of getting it on. The shaft of a strap-on isn't felt the way a body part is, which lets you focus on the equally satisfying details — the pressure of the toy against your partner's genitals and the visual experience of getting a BJ.
Basically, watching someone go down on you is hot, no matter what they're putting in their mouth. Plus, depending on how much access your partner's harness gives you, you can manually stimulate their clit, use a toy or vibrator, or penetrate them while you blow them. Advertisement 8 of 19 Standing Shower Sex A crowd-pleasing position for any twosome, shower sex can reach new heights if both you and your partner have vaginas.
Stimulating and penetrating your partner with your hands in such a small space can make things even more exciting especially if you're really flexible. Just remember that having sex in and around water can wash away natural lubrication, so keeping silicone lube nearby will help keep your fun from ending too soon. Let your limbs mingle until you find a position that's comfy.
The sky's the limit in this position, so make it your own. Maintain eye contact to make it more intimate, use your hands to stimulate each other's clits, or give some much-needed attention to non-genital erogenous zones like nipples. You could even bring out the big guns dildos and penetrate each other. Might we suggest this double-headed dildo? In this seated variation of oral sex, the receiver sits back in a chair like the queen or king that they are.
The partner providing the tongue stimulation kneels on the floor and goes to town they can add a pillow under their knees for extra comfort.
Sitting upright creates an excellent angle for the receiving partner to reach down and stroke their lover's hair. Advertisement 13 of 19 Spooning In spooning position, one partner lies behind the other, as their bodies connect like two spoons lined up cozily in a drawer. Since spooning is a common position for both sex and cuddling , no matter your orientation, it's a pose that allows for a lot of customization.
When spooning with two partners with vaginas, try using a strap-on for penetrative sex from behind. Or leave the sex toys in the drawer, and simply enjoy pleasuring one another with your hands.
But don't just focus on each other's genitals: Utilize this comforting position to caress the breasts, butt, and legs, or even have the big spoon give the little spoon a scalp massage. With the miracle of the strap-on, two people with vaginas can also enjoy the eye and body contact intimacy missionary provides.
Have the receiving partner lie on their back, using pillows for comfort if making love somewhere other than a bed or sofa. The partner on top glides the strap-on into their partner's vagina, communicating to know how fast or slow to go. A bonus of missionary sex with a strap-on: The two partners can take turns on one another — just make sure to use condoms as you would on a penis if outside of a fluid-bonded relationship. Getting into this position may feel awkward, so you can always start with the standard lying down oral sex position, and then switch things up once you and your partner are both aroused.
Here's how to do it: After the giving partner lies down on their back, the receiving partner gently lifts a leg over their shoulders and then slowly squats down until their vulva makes contact with their partner's mouth. It may require a bit of maneuvering to get it right, but it's totally worth it.
It's straightforward well, queer-forward but versatile. It's also super hot for public sex, like a hook-up in a bar bathroom for non-germaphobes but can be done in the privacy of your own home as well. The best part is the power dynamics at play. By having one partner on her knees, the receiving partner can grab the giving partner's face, grab her hair, and pull her mouth onto her own clit. We can go hard too ," Dr. If you can, offer your partner a pillow to kneel on to prevent rug burn or achy knees.
It's not a totally selfless move: After all, if the person going down on you feels more comfortable, they'll be able to eat you out for longer.
Any time a couple has sex somewhere that's not the bedroom deserves extra points, in my opinion. In this position, one partner wears a strap-on and the other sits on top of it and slides up and down.
Some people love the ability to feel themselves penetrating their partner," Dr. One partner lies down and penetrates the other, using a strap-on or fingers, or you simply enjoy rubbing clits against each other while you stare lovingly into your beautiful partner's eyes. If you're using a dildo, enjoy an added finger in the butt. Don't hold back with breast and nipple play I'm talking to both of you! In fact, you don't even need a strap-on to have mind-blowing sex. In this position, one parter lies back while the other uses their fingers or hands to penetrate the other.
This can be a very intense sensation that many vulva havers find extremely pleasurable," Dr. If you're going to try fisting, use lube , please. Additionally, the use of hands rather than a penis or toy is a wonderful way to get to know your partner's vagina.