With two women there are lots of feelings involved and maybe even a little drama, even from the get-go. Women are intense and you can get wrapped up really quick so it's best to just chill out and see how it goes. You can get to know someone and let somebody get to know you without going to deep.
On a first date it's important to make sure you're both comfortable and of course that you're both having fun. There are no absolute rules, so just relax. This isn't Lesbian Dating , because there's no such thing. You shouldn't have specific expectations either because when it comes to women who date women there's no such thing as stereotypes anymore. The trick is getting the right balance of figuring her out while still having a good time.
And obviously you'll want to do a few things to impress and show her that you're a catch. It isn't too hard. Just make sure you're warm and welcoming. And listen to what she has to say, she will think you're amazing. And for some queer women, first dates are few and far between because finding other queer women is difficult. That's another reason why it's easy to get all caught up in somebody. But if you want the date to go well and you want to go on a second date, don't get too intense.
Don't decide you're in love with them and want to move in together and so share all of your personal business or come on too strong. Just relax and see what happens between you two. If you're like me you'll have absolutely no idea what to wear. I wouldn't want to turn up in jeans and a T-shirt when she's dressed all fancy in a dress or a blazer or something, and on the reverse I wouldn't want to get dressed up to the nines when she's chosen a chilled outfit.
You don't want to accidentally wear matching outfits either. That would be a bit embarrassing on a first date! So, I guess your best bet is to just go smart-casual for the first date or wear what you think would be appropriate for the venue. And above all you should wear what you're comfortable in, something that makes you feel good.
That's surely a question that's baffled lesbians for centuries. I would like to think that straight people have the same dilemma nowadays in the age of gender equality. Correct me if I'm wrong, my hetero friends. Not that I really care what you get up to, tehe. Anyway, if you're a woman on a date with a woman it's a good idea to just split the bill, or at least suggest splitting the bill. Plus, by splitting the bill you're starting out in a good place, on equal grounding.
You're obv not going to shake her hand. That would be ridiculous. But being all European about it and giving her a couple of kisses on the cheek could be a bit too much. So, what do you do? Stand there and give a little wave. That would be incredibly awkward too. I would suggest simply stretching your arms out for a little hug when you meet her. It's cute and informal. Then when you've finished your embrace you can tell her she looks nice and make her smile.
That will make for a brilliant first impression and puts both of you at ease straight away. Don't go getting offended ladies. So the best thing you can do on a first date with a woman is to listen to what she has to say. Obviously ask her lots of follow-up questions too. She will adore the fact that you're being attentive. And hopefully, you'll be genuinely interested in what she has to say as well. That's an indicator that you will get along swimmingly.
She is who she is and can't help it. What you need to do however is get some indication of what she's looking for. Let's have a few for instances here. For instance, she tells you she has more of an emotional connection with girls but enjoys sleeping with guys. If you're looking for someone to date and maybe a relationship she's great. If it's the other way around then you know she's only into getting nasty with you, so she's great if you're looking for a friend with benefits.
If you're the first woman she's ever been on a date with, then you have to decide whether you're ready to take her under your lesbian wing and so on. Hopefully you get where I'm going with this. I'm not saying you should be finding out whether she wants marriage and kids some day, cringe. But you do need to have an idea of where you both stand from day one.
Nor should you be talking about hook-ups or mutual people you know from the bar scene or anything like that. As you well know, the community can be quite tight-knit so it would be pretty gross to talk about other people.
One of my worst dating experiences was when a girl took me to a bar, in which her ex served us as a waitress. That was just weird, hated it. You want to start fresh, without any baggage or creepy conversations.