It's as if they're trying to connect the dots, like, "how did she end up all the way in South Korea. Moving to South Korea happened quickly so I didn't have time to research other black women's experiences living in the East Asian country. I was overwhelmed by all the paperwork and the thought of leaving my old life behind to start a new one. During several job interviews, interviewees tried to explain that I would experience culture shock, and that locals would act very surprised to see me.
I was also informed that the food would be very different and that it was really going to be a massive change. But I didn't think too much about how it would be as a black woman, besides the issue of people touching my hair and how I was going to respond. I think I remember telling some of my friends that I'm no stranger to any of these things—for instance, when I had holiday jobs during school holidays I had a few white customers who were surprised at my mastery of English. I also had white friends who were amazed at my weave or braids.
If I was going to be othered, it was nothing I had not experienced before. I did watch a few YouTube videos on interracial dating in South Korea because I was interested in what was going to happen to my dating life, which was almost non-existent before I left South Africa anyway. Thinking back, nothing shocked me. I was feeling pretty confident. My first few months were pure bliss. I was happy to be away from home and I was happy to be in a new environment, to be meeting new people, and to be living in South Korea.
But the hype started wearing off when I had an experience on a job where it literally felt like I was in high school and a group of mean girls were picking on me. It led me to start thinking about race and what life in Korea is like as a black woman. I began having conversations with other black women in South Korea. Some have lived in other parts of Asia too.
I wanted to hear about their experiences. Here's what they had to say. I was here for a year and nine months then left and returned in August What was it like when you first arrived in South Korea? It was [interesting] getting used to the new environment and getting used to being othered. What do you mean by saying getting used to being othered? Well, I guess I wasn't used to people watching me and looking at me because they weren't used to seeing black people.
This was when I first arrived and lived in Jeonju. It's not like that in Seoul. What else was interesting about traveling or living in South Korea? Being considered American all of a sudden.
Because in America I know I'm American but there isn't that much emphasis. I'm first generation American. Do you feel more American in Korea? But that's changed quite a bit.
The perception has been that black people are not from America. Do Koreans still respond that way to black Americans today? Over the past few years Korean [young people] have been exposed more to America through music, social media and culture.
Hip-hop music is very popular here. Thanks to trap music we [black people] are now seen as Americans. Do you get unwanted attention? Have you ever been treated differently? No, if anything the attention has been great. Since living in South Korea I have started getting modelling gigs. Koreans will tell you if you look good. So I've been really lucky here.
I've kinda popped up. The only thing I see as negative is how people see black people—it's surface-level based. There's no real understanding of black people. What's been hard about living here? Trying to get a job as a black person is hard. This March I was looking for jobs. I interviewed with the recruiters who were happy and a few days later they called me to tell me the school didn't want to hire black people.
Young people are open to black people, maybe it's not quite the same with the older people. People smelling my hands and touching my skin wondering why it's so soft. Do you see yourself living here and settling long-term? No, I'd consider doing business here maybe and being between here and somewhere else. I respect Korea for coming from nothing and building themselves up to where they are today. I like the hustle. Jennifer Bobinski , 26 How long have you lived in South Korea?
I have been back and forth. Why did you come to Korea? In university, my major was Korean studies. I wanted to learn more about the people and the culture. So my friends and I decided to visit. A lot of my teachers encouraged us to visit South Korea. What were some of the things you thought you would encounter in Korea?
We were all from France but a lot of us are children of immigrants. I thought we would have a lot of difficulties but the opposite was true. Old people were a lot more open without any shyness. If you're black in Korea, you're from America. So you left Korea and came back, what made you come back?
The atmosphere; the party life is crazy and everything is open 24 hours. Compared to France the economy is still growing. Since the first time you arrived in Korea to now, how are things different? I have not seen much of a change in the way Koreans interact with black people. The friends that have lived outside of Korea can speak openly about race and they are more aware.
What do you mean by freedom? And I haven't really felt oppressed by restrictions such as the way you are expected to dress , I wear what I want, I party the same way I did when I was back home. Do locals stare at you and how is that different or similar to living in Cambodia? People stare all the time.
It doesn't even bother me anymore. It's something I had to live with when I was in Cambodia, where people aren't even ashamed to stop their cars to look at me. People even take pictures of you without your permission or they'll pretend they're taking a selfie to sneak you into their picture. Is it the same for other foreigners?
There are not that many black women in Cambodia. While I lived there I met 4 other black women. I think that's the reason white women don't get stared at as much. What was it like as a black woman in Cambodia? I felt like there was so little regard for us. You get overlooked a lot. In the way that locals and other foreigners speak to you and treat you. What was the hardest about living in Cambodia?
I was teaching at a kindergarten, the principal pulled me aside and told me the parents didn't think I'd be suitable. I found out that it was because some parents did not want a black teacher teaching their children. There is quite a bit of blatant discrimination.
As a black woman you will normally work in a kindergarten and get paid less. I had a male friend who had the same job as me, at the same institution, who was getting paid more. Have you experienced similar incidents here in South Korea? I was out with my friends who are foreign in Seoul once.
My friends went in the club, I went somewhere else quickly.