Or is that the date? You can see the conceptual paradox. At best those programmes are about eliminating whom not to date, and such a person must be an obvious misfit. The whole thing seems like guess work on a multiple choice exam paper. The structure favours certain stereotypes — guys and babes who can make their case in two minutes flat. And you will become numb to feelings. Of course you run a huge risk pursuing that course. You may end up the father of multiple children simultaneously.
Your children from multiple women may end up just days older than each other if you keep ploughing through girls. What usually happens when you finally make that choice is that you begin to wonder about the adequacy of your choice. All the other options will withdraw once you choose. Which then makes it hard for you to be committed to your choice.
You can both have the same interests and still be unsuitable for each other. Humans are deeper than the interests they pick up along the journey of life. Many of the wonderful marriages you see hardly have partners who share common interests. At the end of the day, all those subject interests matter less than your interest in each other, your love for each other.
She may or may not follow you to Wimbledon for that tennis final, as exciting as that may be, yet love you to bits. If you truly love each other, that lack of understanding of tennis becomes an amusing anecdote in your relationship, the wonder of it all. Commitment speaks of something deeper, something stronger, something tested, a resolution, an exercise of strength.
In choosing a partner you ought to pay attention to emotional and behavioural qualities, as well as values. Life is not a restaurant. But if aware of your income bracket she is mindful not to go for the most expensive items on the menu, that says something too.
In other words, is she considerate and kind? Or is she greedy, selfish and self-centered? Those considerations are more important than the ability to pronounce foie gras, or wear long painted talons and weave-ons. Pay attention to the person not just the looks and affectations. Values and character give you insight into a person.
Is she a sincere person? Is she a manipulative person? Can you trust her? Is she planning to dump her living expenses on you? Is she looking for a Kardashian lifestyle financier? Is expression of endearment in her phone call a prelude and foundation for demand for money and fashion finance?
Do you feel cheated? All these go to character. A fantastic choice of partner is not determined by the number of women ploughed through. You may get stuck. Dating the wrong person is the start of the journey into a bad marriage. Better to pray to just meet the right person than to dissipate so much energy and resources on so many wrong prospects.
Take it easy young man. I hope this straightens out some of your issues.