I have been bringing women to Italy for the past five years, so for me, my career is about evolution and where do I go from here?
After so many years, it made sense to start matchmaking and giving women advice on dating. After spending so much time in Italy, I began to recognize how Italian men respond to African American women. They find us very attractive. It grew from there. The reason why the cameras are in tow, I felt like what I had was the ultimate secret and people need to know about it.
Some viewers of To Rome For Love took issue with the notion that Italian men are genuinely more attracted to black women than American men are, and feel like this might be more of a fetish than genuine appreciation and understanding that fuels their desires. Most of them think black women are prostitutes. I don't like the premise of this show. That has never been my experience in Italy. Italian men like women. Some only like tall black women or dark-skinned black women. Everybody has their preferences.
Gina Neely opens up about looking for love in Rome Hurting or Helping? Plenty of folks have a problem with the premise of the series and insist To Rome For Love is perpetuating negative stereotypes about black women and makes them seem desperate.
We are hurting because we all want to be loved. I think sometimes black women experience some unwarranted criticism. There are stereotypes that say we are too bossy or too aggressive or too loud or too whatever. We are constantly living our lives on guard, trying not to be those things so we will be desired and loved. The notion of slavery, when the families were ripped apart and the men were killed during slavery, who kept it all together?
Women had to build a life, a family, protect your kids, for years black women have had that weight on their shoulders. When you couple all of that with who black women are, it allows people to be a but more compassionate about the characteristics that we have.
She also shared her thoughts on how American men are responsible for perpetuating some of the negative stereotypes about black women. Famous, successful and wealthy black men are choosing to love and marry women of other ethnicities. While I believe that everyone deserves love and should be free to love any woman that they want there is also an increasing number of black men that are expressing their unattractiveness to black women. Self-hatred has nearly destroyed our community and continues to be a significant factor in the destruction of the black family.
In To Rome For Love, I tackle some of these issues with the women hat traveled with me to Rome to experience dating in a country and amongst men that find their natural characteristics incredibly attractive. My quest is to simply be an advocate for these women. These women range in age from their twenties to their fifties. We were looking for a way to show this experience can be relevant to all women. We were also looking for women who were unlucky in love. Helping and Healing While she was on deck to lend her expertise and guide the women through their individual journeys, Valentine was careful not to push the ladies too hard.
There are some traits that I know for certain are going to happen no matter what. We had a plan going in and then we made adjustments where we needed to. I have to allow them to breathe and experience this on their own. As women, we all have blind spots. They are very loyal, so are black women.
They are also very affectionate. They hug a lot and kiss a lot and tell you they love you very quickly and I think black women also have those characteristics.