Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. This woman said she had been dating a guy for a while. He had told her she was the "one," he was in touch with her daily, he introduced her to his friends and family as his girlfriend But then a week ago, she got a text from him simply saying, "I really like you, but I'm too scared. I need some time and space. She asked what she should do. Of course Hussey addressed the awful way of breaking up with someone via text, but I want to address what he said regarding the "I'm scared" excuse, as it is something that will forever change the way I view a situation in the future if a man uses that reasoning for needing space or breaking up.
And I hope it will help other women out there see it in a different light as well so that the next time it happens, they can move on quickly. Hussey started off by saying that probably only 1 out of every 10 guys who uses that excuse is even telling the truth about being scared.
I'll address the one who is telling the truth in a second, but Hussey says he's doesn't buy the "I'm scared" excuse, not even for a minute. He said using that excuse as a reason for breaking up is a Jedi mind trick that guys play on women, because it gives them an easy out; they get to walk away and get sympathy!
The dude doesn't necessarily walk away looking like a bad guy because, poor him, he's just scared. I mean, how could a person possibly be mad at a guy for being scared and liking or loving someone sooo much that he had to let her go because of it? He gets to walk away from the relationship without anyone being mad at him and he gets sympathy.
And regarding the guy that really is telling the truth and has so much fear and so many issues around commitment, the question Hussey asks is, "Do you really want to be involved with a guy with that much emotional baggage anyways? Because if a guy is into you, no matter how scared he is, he won't run -- he'll stick around and try to work through it, because his love for you and need to have you in his life trumps his fear. Here's the cold, hard truth and one I have had to painfully face myself in the past: If he's too scared to commit, it means he's willing to let you go.
I've asked many men about this and they all agree that no matter how freaked out or scared they are, if they love a woman and want to be with her, they will do whatever it takes to be with her -- they will not let her go, no matter what.
You are awesome and fabulous and there are lots of guys out there chomping at the bit to date you Why would you want to be with or spend so much time and energy pining over anyone who isn't that into you? So, the next time a guy uses the "I'm scared" of commitment excuse and walks, don't wait for him to come back. Don't give him sympathy. Act with human dignity towards him, of course, as you would with any human being, but move on.
And, yes, sometimes very often even they come back and have either worked through their commitment issues or have realized they can't live without you and are ready to move forward with you But you can't count on it or wait for it. Live your life, enjoy your life When a guy runs or even shuts down in the relationship because he says he's scared if he truly is scared , he is showing you how he responds to discomfort.
When he was feeling uneasy and uncomfortable, he bailed Hussey asks, "Do you want to be in a relationship with someone who has that kind of pattern in their behavior? We all have baggage. It's just a matter of what we do with it that separates the men from the boys.