Then, this courtship has rules on physical touch he believed no kissing or physical contact until the marriage , so that you remain pure. It promised her love when she was ready! I even wrote about it on this blog, in a post about teenage dating which still pops up on Pinterest and does really well. But then something funny happened, both in our family and in families all over North America. But also, how do you know you want to marry someone unless you get to know them?
And how do you get to know them unless you spend time with them? By the time Rebecca was 17 she was starting to go out to coffee with several guys, and even out to dinner, and she is still friends with most of those young men and their now wives!
Other families had other ones. The biggest critique was this one: I remember one comment that was left on this blog on a post about modesty so not about that book at all. I was raised in the purity movement and taught that if I dressed modestly, I would attract boys who would be drawn to my modest character. And so in our homeschooling group I wore the long baggy denim skirts.
I wore the oversized T-shirts. But as we grew up, one by one all of these nice boys who were also raised in conservative, modesty families started dating girls who wore regular jeans and flattering tops and did their hair and makeup.
And soon they were all taken. Quite simply, there are an awful lot of young people being raised in these conservative families who have never found a mate, because they have absolutely no opportunity to get to know other young people. I think God likely does call some people to wait for courtship. I think God calls some to wait to kiss at the altar, and not others. I think that for some, dating at 15 may be okay though likely not for most.
I think we like rules because they make life less scary. But every person is different, with different temptations, different levels of maturity, even different life paths. And so we should not assume that there is always a right answer. When I saw the fundraising campaign , I gave some money.
And so I just wanted to give all of you the chance to donate, too. His fundraising appeal is up on August 5. Backers and only backers will be able to vote on Kickstarter for the country they would most like to see included in this important conversation. One of the hardest things when you get big in any industry is admitting you made a mistake.
And yet I believe God works through humility. If you feel so led, please give. I would love to see this project come to fruition! You may also like: