Don't mind if I do. One for the road? No always seems to want to play hide and seek when you need it the most. When you're online dating, a lot of dates happen when they really shouldn't. Like a misunderstanding over a spilled pint which quickly turns into a bar brawl, these things should be nipped in the bud when you have the chance. Because you are so adorable, desirable and amazing, lots of people will want to date you, but you can't be into all of them. So you should be clear from the off about what you do and don't want in your online dating profile.
A few will totally ignore you and slip through the net of course and, if you're willing to give them a go, can become the best dates of all, but hey. If you're absolutely sure you don't want to 'go there', be firm but fair. Leave the bitchy putdowns to JR Ewing.
When you're saying no to a date, whether you've met them or not, you are rejecting them. You're not a meanie at heart, no matter how distant and calculating you pretend to be, so if you're going to say "thanks, but no thanks" to someone who contacts you online, you're going to want to do it sensitively. Call it karmic dating, if you like.
One day, that poor sod is going to be you. How do you want to hear the bad news? I'm chatting to a couple of other people right now who seem to be more what I'm looking for. Best of luck with your search! I don't want us to waste each other's time. Hope you find what you're looking for. I don't want to take this any further. You should fully expect even the nicest of rebuffs to turn kindly Keith from Kettering into a whirling tornado of embittered vitriol.
They might call you ugly, stupid or tell you to go fuck yourself. Don't get into the dialogue they are so desperate for. Just block them and get on with your life. They still lose; they didn't get to date you. And you do not have a big nose, whatever they might say. If you're being asked this question, the night can't have been too much of a disaster, unless your date is running low on self-awareness. It turns out he was shy. But, generally, when you're invited to "do this again" there has either been a flicker of mutual interest or one of you has been doing some RADA-standard acting.
But if you've not been feeling it enough to want an encore, this question can put you in a tricky position. Do you want the evening to take an acidic turn? Will your date understand?
Maybe they're asking out of politeness? Some schools of thought say you should be honest and upfront, say thank you but no and maybe explain you didn't feel there was sufficient chemistry to continue. Well, yeah, but it's getting late and you don't want to put a downer on the evening, so the Guyliner school of thought says, just answer "Sure, why not? Drop me a text and we'll sort something out", dole out a peck on the cheek no lips, never mind tongues and be on your merry way before you miss your bus.
Then, should they bother to get in touch, do all the hard stuff over text. Thought it was important to be honest. It always looks much better written down, and you don't even have to do your best 'sincere face'. You may think you'd want to hear the news in person, but, as I have touched on before in my guide to dumping somebody by text , there's not much point in the why and the wherefores when you're being ditched. It's mortally embarrassing for you both and you really just want to be out of there.
So get out of there.