Tips on how to overcome your obsessing thoughts. Stop letting an infatuation or an obsession over a girl or guy control your life. Obsessing and constantly thinking about someone is often mistaken for love or being in love with somebody, however they are different things.
The definition or meaning of infatuation Infatuation is a short term almost obsessive interest in somebody, sometimes confused with love. Infatuation is an irrational need for somebody, similar to a strong crush or lust. People who are infatuated or obsessed with somebody tend to become blinded by their feelings, only seeing the positive in that person. They often see certain situations to be more special than they really are and assign meaning to things when there is none.
They often completely fail to see negative personality traits of the person that they are obsessed with. Having an infatuation for somebody is an emotional roller coaster. It can cause great joy, happiness and contentment, however it can also be equally as bad causing great sadness, stress and emotional pain. How to know if you are infatuated? Are you constantly thinking or day dreaming about that person? Does the thought of being away from them, in another country for example cause you emotional distress?
Do you feel the need to spy on that person, or even stalk them? Firstly understand the difference between love and infatuation because infatuation is often mistaken for love. Love involves knowing a person very well, understanding their positives and their flaws. Understand mental projection , because some of these great qualities that we see in someone is largely just projecting our own good qualities onto them. So that would mean in some ways we are actually obsessed with ourselves. Infatuation is common Understand your infatuation is not unique.
There will be thousands of people feeling the exact same way for someone else. Your Biology Understand what is happening to your brain when you feel that way. The affect on our brains has been described as similar to the effects of cocaine. Work to improve your self esteem and self image. Low self esteem can be a big factor in why some people develop infatuations for people. Often people will assign higher social stat us to others, putting them on a pedestal. However this idealistic person is nothing more than a fantasy, a creation of our own imagination, we create the perfect person or situation.
Inward Thinkers Some people are naturally more inward thinking and self reflexive than others. If that inward thinking starts to focus on a particular person it can increase the chance of an infatuation developing. Inward thinkers are more likely to over think a situation and assign meaning to events that might not be there, and more likely to focus their thoughts on a particular person. There is a personality type known as sensor or intuitive , the strong intuitive types are often in their heads over thinking situations.
The strong sensor types are paying a great deal of attention to their surrounding, paying attention to details and living in the moment. To do this, simply start practicing living in the moment, being observant and paying attention to details. You will have to consciously work at this, however it should become more natural in time.