Nice profile - I'm way outclassed. Mean and Edgy Openers: Oh no you're trouble aren't you? You were looking for trouble right? Your parents will not like me. I can already tell. I can already tell you're not really a "take home to mama" girl.
You're not really my type, but my type also sucks. Want to go out? Sorry you're not really my type. Wow you are not attractive enough to do that lip thing. Based on what I've seen, you seem like one of those crazy girls. Dang girl, are you an angel? Because you fell from heaven. I messed that one up. I'm right behind you. Wait, sorry that was someone else. Hold on I'm on my way! Did you hear about that puppy stranded on a lifeboat in the middle of the Pacific ocean?
Apparently its last wish was for us to go on a date. It was so cute! Hello, yes, I'd like to sign up to join the religion where we worship your face. Yes, the face-worshipping religion. I'm a person too, you know. I don't care what your roommate did. Whatever it was, I just want to let you know that you're right and I'm here just to listen to you. If you do nothing, you will continue to receive messages. Do you ever have so much money in your pockets that you get bruises on your thighs.
Life is so hard. I've thought it over, and I'm okay with naming our first child Ray, though I don't think it's fair to doom him to a life as a comedian or a truck driver. If she's a girl, though, she'll definitely be hot. Whoa was that pervy? Do you ever lay down and stare up into the stars at night and wonder why there is so much sadness in the world, and why there are so many times in movies when you see someone make an incredible sandwich but they never get to eat it, or why we haven't met yet?
If we went on a date, where would we go, and why didn't you just let me pay for your meal? Your wish is my command. NBD but I just ate a footlong sub. It's a little more than just trying to pick them up. Below you'll also find some more approaches and examples both of what to do and what not to do. Don't say the first thing that jumps into your head. Make an effort to stand out. Don't say anything like "Ur gorgeous. According to OKCupid's data blog OKTrends , messages that have words like "sexy," "beautiful," "hot," and "cutie," all received less responses.
Girls aren't listening to that stuff, so quit saying it. Stop trying to be cool or cocky. Being arrogant is a turnoff for women. Use words that make you seem a little vulnerable like "sorry" and "awkward" and "probably. Online conversations are perfect for lighthearted teasing. You can really get to know her when you meet her in person.
Be outgoing and positive. No one likes someone who's negative all the time. People are attracted to happiness. Relax if she doesn't respond. You're not going to get a home run every time you hit the ball. There are tons more women out there. Be enthusiastic about getting to know her.
Ask her questions about herself, but leave the heavy getting-to-know-you stuff for in person. On OKTrends, they found that messages with slang like "u," "ur," "ya," and "hit" and "can't" got fewer responses. The only exceptions were "lol" and "hahaha. Say something like, "You have good taste in music! I love Alicia Keys too. Notice what works and what doesn't, and who's responding to what you're putting out there.
Remember that the ultimate goal of this is to meet up with a woman in person. Don't keep the messaging going on for too long before asking for a number or to meet up. That said, don't push for it too soon either. The longer you're messaging each other, the longer you'll be messaging each other. Unless you went online to get a pen pal, that can get old really fast. Ask to see her in person.
Long messages are hard to respond to. Make her feel something! Make her laugh, surprise her, or tease her. An emotional response is a good start to a conversation. Your opening line could make someone's day!
General Approaches to Try for OKCupid, POF, and other Online Dating Sites For sites that are more known for people looking for relationships, it's best to try some other kinds of approaches, which will vary depending on your age, where you live, and who you're trying to meet. Remember that this is just a guide and not a law. Here are some approaches you can try: A cup of coffee turns me from a grumpy morning person to a happy morning person!
My favorite spot is Philz. Have you been there? An opener like this shows that you read her profile and saw that she likes coffee. You also gave her an easy question to answer if she wants to continue the conversation.
Comment Followed by a Date Suggestion Example: I went to school in Boston too! I loved running on the Charles in fall. It was so beautiful. Also, I'm going to be a little bold here. I'm going to a dodgeball tournament with my friends on Monday night.
You seem like the kind of girl that might be into that sort of thing. Whoa whoa whoa, you say. Isn't that too fast? Many women online don't want to stay there. Show them that you've read their profile and then say something like "This is a little bold, but. It works best if it's a group hangout. You can combine it with a drink beforehand, making it really effective to find out more about who they are as a person.
If she takes a look at your pictures and profile and thinks you look cool, you're in. Comment and Question Let's say a woman who now lives in Austin, TX says she's from Montgomery, Alabama and talks about how much she shamelessly loves country music: A sample message could be: Country music is God's gift to mankind. Have you been to Alamo? As a bonus, if she hasn't been to that bar, then you can invite her to go out there.