Pinterest 27 If there is one common question that resides in the minds and hearts and pants of men, it is this: We want them to actually like it. We want them to be in the mood for it. But this is sometimes—oftentimes—more difficult to accomplish than one might think.
After all, women are very different from men. Men are microwaves, while women are slow cookers. Usually it takes some stage-setting and, dare I say, strategy. But how do we do it? Unfortunately there are a lot of lazy husbands out there. However, we do live in hectic culture. With work, kids, and the like, it can prove difficult to lay out a well-conceived, well-executed plan to get your sweetheart in the right mood and in the bedroom.
So with that in mind, I want to give you four simple things that will help you get your wife in the mood: This is very true with my wife. Cooking dinner might seem a little extravagant for a few of you. In that case just start with the simple things like dishes.
Especially for no reason? Everyone likes a surprise. Guys, go out and buy some flowers, NOT lingerie. If you have a daughter, bring her flowers, too. That will be awesome for your daughter, and your wife will like it as well. Your wife needs to know what you think about her. Honestly, if they did, I would worry. But your wife is a different story. She needs to know that you love her. She needs to know you find her desirable. That you are proud of her.
You may be forgetful like me. Set a reminder on your phone to text or call her. Touch her, but not like that. This is the funny thing.
Many women want physical touch, but they want it in a different way than most men. They want to hold hands. Maybe a casual back scratch or absentminded playing with their hair. They want simple acts of physical intimacy. Try doing this when you are with the kids, at the mall, or in church. The bottom line is this: If you want to get your wife in the mood you need to love her more. You need to show her you care through simple acts of kindness and intentionality.
If the only reason you do these things is to score in the bedroom then you are on the wrong track and the results will not be what you hoped for. There is no quick fix. There is no magic pill. Love her better and love her more. Being a good husband is the ultimate secret to getting her in the mood.
Don't give up on your marriage. It is worth the effort and investment. If you feel like your marriage is struggling, or even failing, there is hope.