They suggested the topic of how to ask a girl out online and I absolutely loved the result! They are all in their thirties and blog about their dating experiences in hilarious fashion. You can read their blog here. Right this is not likely the way to attract her. If all you want is to be seen in public with a hot girl from time to time this may be working for you…Carry on. We get it—times are changing, everything is fast-paced, superficial, and sometimes the whole thing feels like one big joke.
But at the end of the day what do you want out of all of this? Are you looking for an actual committed relationship, someone to go eat guacamole with, or just a hookup hey, no judgment here? So step up, grow a pair, and put yourself out there. This person is essentially a stranger until you make the move to meet in public. If you have been messaging back and forth with someone for a little while and she seems interested in you and you already know she thinks you are reasonably attractive , trust us she will more than likely be open to meeting up in person.
The quickest way to kill the chance for romance is with a lame date request. If your intention is to take this girl out and let her know that you are a man worthy of her time, then please DO NOT use any versions of the following statements: Or let me know if you want to text instead.
But again you can do better. Please do better, we are begging you. Instead of dipping a tentative toe in the water, jump right in and ask her out like a man! Gentleman, repeat after us: Would you be interested in grabbing a drink with me sometime after work this week?
Do you want to check out that new Mexican restaurant with me later this week? Can I take you out to dinner Friday? Would Thursday be a good time for you? Show her that you are clearly interested and available by being direct. And when she says yes because trust us she will follow up with her and arrange the date.
This means settling on a time you are both free, deciding on where you will meet, and locking down the rest of the details as soon as you can. If you are messaging back and forth with her and decide that you are somewhat interested in her, DO NOT continue sending her messages for days on end. She has friends she can exchange pointless texts with all day. She does not need a pen pal. Especially a stranger pen pal. If you are not going to ask to meet her IRL within a few days, do her a favor and leave her alone.
No need to thank us when the dates start rolling in, just pass this simple message along to your boys! Or send wine…we love wine! Want to let us know if our advice worked? We would love to hear from you — reach us at singlegirlsanonymous gmail.