I'll find something productive to do. But I'm open to compromise. I told her how I felt about it. She still texted or called from time to time, but only when it was important, like if she had a ruff day, a fight with her parents, etc. I would talk with her briefly to kholland65 9 Xper cheer her up, then I would tell her I had to go so I could get back to what I was doing and she respected that.
She also knew that if it wasn't important, it was best just not to bother me. She could just tell me when we saw each other next which wasn't an eternity. It was most likely at most, the next day. The problem is for women, its about competition to their female peers. They want to see who's Boyfriend cares about them more, and they gauge that by the amount of texts they get per day.
I would feel the same way that if a guy doesn't text me a lot then I'm not on his mind. But now I'm starting to see that it's ok to go a day or two with out hearing from him. You're right it's about how much time he spends with you and that he makes a effort to contact you. It may not be 5 times a day but as long as he contacts you frequently and spends quality time with you then that's all that matters.
I also think its interesting that you basically said men bond through touch? So a man would rather touch you to show you that he cares and misses you than to talk? I know not all the time but are you saying most of the time it is this way? And also when you say touch, do you mean sexual touching that leads to sex or just cuddling? In women the same reaction occurs during deep conversation. I'm not saying that men don't enjoy deep conversations and women don't enjoy touch. But those things fill a special need for both genders to feel close and intimate towards there partner.
Aka an emotional attachment. For guys this includes all levels of touch, from hand holding, to sex, and everything else inbetween. This is why guys who are crushing on a girl will subconsciously always try and be near the girl same room, sitting next to her, standing near her, etc. I think you have the idea. It's just a different way of communicating. Neither gender is wrong, but given that both genders need to learn to compromise and be understanding of the others needs.
Finally, I just think as an adult, you have better things to be doing that texting all day, and you really get busy.
You need to be able to go a few days without contact from your SO.