Twitter My boyfriend has done some softer aggressive things during sex like pinching my nipples, pulling my hair, and holding my wrists down to keep me from pushing him away after I cum from oral and he wants to keep going. Thing is, I've been very positively receptive to those things, I've told him how much I like it, I also moan louder. Recently, he put his hand over my mouth and nose. I immediately made a noise of mmm and removed his hand.
He rolled off me and lay there with his eyes closed. He was less affectionate the next morning and was distant for 3 days so I left him alone and gave him space. He later said he did it to both quiet me and stop my breathing because he likes to try new things. He admitted he was disapointed that I wasn't into it.
That it felt like I wasn't game or trusting. I told him he's right, I wasn't game and that I've always been claustaphobic about things being on my mouth. And that I wish he had talked to me first because he would have known that. In the past he had discussed other things by doing a checkoff list of things to try.
But breathe play wasn't on it. He said, "I guess it's one thing to discuss and another to try". I said," I like trying things we both know we're ok with.
Do you think that's reasonable? And I reminded him that stopping my breathing is a major thing. It's a very advanced form of play. He said he just didn't know how to take my reaction because it's been his experience that women like it.
And that he's sorry for upsetting me. He said that now he feels that I'm not willing to try new things with him. He used the 2nd time we ever tried anal when I couldn't seem to relax as an example. It doesn't seem to matter that our first time with anal went well.
I agreed to communicate my desires but told him his other points seem unfair. I also find it hard to believe that any woman, let alone every single person he supposedly tried it on and he dated dozens of women in the past liked being surprised to a hand over the mouth during sex. Does that sound like a load of crap or what?