This Guide is designed to help Westerners, date women in mainland China. The Chinese thought China was the center of the universe. I am an American, so much of what I write will come from that viewpoint. This guide will be very politically incorrect. You have been warned. In my opinion P4P in China is that it is a waste of money, stupid, and completely unnecessary.
Instead of people having to go search for my posts about China all over the various forums, you can get that information here in one place. This guide will be long, but if you are interested, it will be worth reading it. I will break this down into various chapters or sections.
Do your Homework First! I am a Black American male. I was married to a Black American woman for 2 years and lived with her for about 3 years before that. That marriage and relationship was terrible for reasons not worth writing about because everyone here knows why and can use their imagination.
I tried dating Chinese women here in the US even, only to fail for the most part. I have dated many Chinese women in China and I currently have a Chinese wife.
So I know many sides of the equation. I have also done business on and off with China for many years with US based and other multinational companies. I have a minor in Chinese language from a university. My basic disclaimer is that I cannot guarantee success from my guide, but you can find success if you do not abandon self-improvement and game.
Don't look at my personal success as just being lucky. That is just not true at all. Many others have done the same thing. Remember there are 1. There are roughly million Chinese women. America has roughly million people of all ages! I will provide a short list of their best qualities many of them have: Are very dedicated and express love with actions, not words. Most are very traditional! Are very beautiful, and age very well too!
I could go on and list things like their hair is awesome, they look amazing in qipao dresses, eyes, etc.. What is an example of the loyalty Kai? Ever saw that evil old man Rubert Murdoch about to be hit in the face with a cream pie by some UK journalist?
What is an example of the practicality Kai? They tend to be very frugal and do not make unnecessary expenditures. They may even ride you for "wasting money", like for staying in 5 and 4 star hotels, when there are cheaper ones around.
Far from the stupid and inaccurate stereotype of "Gold-digger Asian women" you see thrown around. In fact, while traveling around in China with your girlfriend, you may have to insist upon nicer stuff to suit your own levels of comfort!!
Do not be surprised if you have to do that! There is a reason why Chinese people have many many times more money in savings than their American counterparts do! What is an example of this dedication and love expression? I will give you a personal one.
My first time meeting my eventual wife, we were getting ready to go eat food somewhere, she checked me out first to see if my clothes were too wrinkled, lint, etc. Then she picked a nasty booger out of my nose, finished checking my face, then gave me the OK.
Need I say more? There was no hesitation in her movements, she was smiling, and thought nothing of it. I said nothing to her about it either. I double dog dare anyone to ask an American Woman to do this for you! Kai what is an example of Chinese girls being very traditional?
There are too many examples to choose from, but they are raised to follow their husbands. There is a Chinese parable about wherever the male monkey goes, the female must follow behind. I may have botched the translation a little bit, but you get the idea. They already come with these "built in" qualities. DO NOT be shocked while chatting with Chinese ladies, in person or online, if they ask you if it is time for you to go to bed or have you eaten lunch yet, or many other things.
It's like they are wired to tend to a man's needs! Don't be a sandy vag mangina, whining about "she is trying to control me" bullshit either. Do you want a real woman or a new-world-order fuck buddy? Can't always have both. What is an example of this beauty Kai? Look at the photos in this guide or here. Also this should be a given but any 6 or 7 in China is likely a 7 or 8 in the US. Just in case someone reading this doesn't know that. Look at these Chinese girls in qipao http: Chinese history spans at least years!
Compare that to America's less than or so, and it helps to paint a picture. Nah it can be tough to comprehend that. It really can be. Chinese mentality has changed alot, but in many ways, it has changed very little. Much of their value system comes from Confucian Ideals. Those are the basic 7 themes the women will be looking for consciously, or sub-consciously!
At this point it is time to introduce you to Crystal Tao's website called http: After she got married she quit the site, but left the articles for other to learn and use. Expand out the various months, and check out the articles of interest. The comments sections sometimes has interesting nuggets in there too. If you read that entire website, you probably would not need this guide too much. The value of this guide is to give you quicker 10, foot views, mixed with some granular details, from an American MAN's perspective!
That said lets go over some various highlights in the next section: Understanding Chinese Women Chinese women are very simple to learn and even though it may seem complex, they are not. That is because Chinese history and culture is more complex. The women really are not that complex themselves.
Here are a few key reasons why: Very direct and straight to the point most of the time. If there was a type of woman a real logic driven man can get along nicely with it would be the blunt nature of a prudent straight forward type.
Chinese women and UK women are definitely these types. Another way to look at it is to look at Chinese language itself. Chinese language is not as overflowing with unnecessary words like English is. It is very simple and to the point. The downside is that the details are not as specific. Don't expect SNL style humor to come out of the mouth of a Chinese woman either.
They can be snide or sarcastic but that is only after you have made several snide remarks first! You may find yourself picking at them for a little while with humor or jokes, and they never bite. Then hours or days later, they bring one of those jokes up again and it busts you over the head nicely with it! Seriously they are very witty they just don't like to use it the same way Western Women do. If they tell you that you are getting too fat, they are not talking shit to you.
They just want you to do better. Don't take it personal. If a Chinese woman says something that sounds "fucked-up" to you, see where they were going with that first, because you really do not know really know what they mean by that or if they meant harm to you.
Ask for clarity or re-read what they say multiple times. It doesn't mean what you probably think it means. Typical Chinese women have simple aspirations.