When you're the one who always has the crazy dating stories I mean what ever happened to the days when 2 people dated each other… The End? No team of prospects. Did our grandparents have a boo or 2 on the side in the beginning stages of their courtship back in the day as well? Hey, it is possible! I once read an article that discussed the necessity of dating more than one person at a time.
Initially I was against the whole idea but when I weighed the benefits AND after a couple of dating faux pas of my own, it became very clear why it made so much sense. I even wrote a post about it here. Dating more than one person is not about having a backup plan but it SHOULD be about being able to effectively identify what type of partner suits you best.
It also helps in keeping a healthy dating perspective and avoiding the plague of what we call investing too much of yourself in one person. Or better yet, the wrong person. Well, to me, that all depends on a few factors: How you found out 2. How long you have been dating them 4. Gotta love those Martin episodes!
Successful, beautiful, funny, intelligent and classy. And most importantly she likes you. Now on the other hand lets say that she never gives you any inclination that she dates other men and you happen to run into her on a date. Then, in my opinion you may have some leverage in being upset with her. The WAY in which you find out does matter! I must mention tho that it is important to ask these questions when you start seeing someone on a consistent basis.
Because lets be honest. Should you be upset? Well yes… only if everyone else except you meaning him and her knew about these acquaintances and still chose to proceed. Then hell yes you should be angry. Factor 3 Now this one is kinda heavy. Only dating for 3 months?
Been there, done that, got a t-shirt! And as we all know both males and females can be sideline joints these days. Nobody is safe lol. You have to be very observant when it comes to stuff like this, especially in this dating culture… and you MUST ask questions. And not just those vague yes or no questions either. I once met a very handsome guy who happened to have a generally unique name.
So being that I love to google guys I knew I would be able to find info on him because of the unique spelling of his name. So I hit him up like… so just for clarification you are single right? I never spoke to him again.
Unless she got married 2 days before that conversation he was lying. He never knew I found his page cuz I never mentioned it. No time for fake ones. Dodged a bullet on that one. So I said ALL of that to say… People have a right to date multiple people at a time as long as they are honest and forthcoming with the truth when the time calls for it.
AND as long as they are in non committed interactions. Well… maybe I will feel some type of way about it lol but I will get over it. Just get your own dating weight up… or settle for being the person with one basket full of eggs waiting to be heartbroken.