The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. Not like a dad bod — like, a legitimately fat guy. She's this stunning babe that I've been pining over for months now and she rebuffs me and jumps in bed with this fat slob.
What the hell is with that? What the hell does he have that I don't? Never forget that female tastes are as diverse and unconventional as male tastes. Some women like to kiss stinky feet. Some women like concocting bondage fantasies with men in luchador masks. Have I ever told you about that corporate lawyer who tried to get me to screw a hot dog bun?
Well, you might be wrong. See, this is just another piece of evidence that points towards a fairly obvious conclusion, which is this: The most attractive male trait is confidence. Basically everything else is secondary. Jerry, on paper, should be absolutely drowning in female attention. Crew model, except real, and heterosexual. Because he has absolutely no self-esteem. The way he behaves with women, therefore, is cringeworthy. Basically, he falls in love with anyone who gives him the time of day.
Probably, you want to be more like Terry. Packing A Few Extra Pounds? The guy is a serial entrepreneur who just sold his third company. His life is as colorful as lives can get. How did he get this way? Before long, he was a funny, smart, charismatic person with a staggering list of achievements.
I bet you can see where this is going. Terry is drowning in female attention. And, as a result, his confidence is bulletproof.
People want to be around that. Something that draws people to you. You need to be an actually interesting person. Any hot girl can sleep with a hot guy at any time. Ideally, you should become more interesting — find a dream, and chase it.
Fake it till you make it — all confidence is fake confidence, at first. Because that kind of neediness is endlessly unattractive. Way more unattractive than an extra fifty pounds. Think you could use some dating help, too?