I think I'm in love with a playboy, and I'm confused if he loves me or just he wants sex. We met on Instagram. We chatted for four months before I confessed my feelings to him. I had really bad experiences in relationships. I told him everything about me because I trusted him. I just wanted someone who would love me as nobody else could. But now we are in a long-distance relationship.
He came to meet me yesterday. We spent the whole day with each other. I was really happy, but then he was started acting secretive. I caught him on a call two times with a girl. He said it was nothing. At first, I thought they are just friends. But, I just felt he was lying.
I don't know if I can trust him or not. When he was with me, I saw love in his eyes and touch. He posted our pictures on my social media accounts because he wants everyone in my contacts to know I'm in a relationship.
Now I'm not sure if he really loves me or I'm overreacting. You Might Also Like: Now, I have no way of knowing if this guy is just there for sex. On Instagram, like all social media platforms, with few exceptions we see but a sliver of who someone is.
We see what they consciously or unconsciously want us to see. And the rest is obscured. While I value the connections that can be made online, when they move beyond the platonic realm, things get sticky. The second aspect that concerns me here is when you said: Announcing your relationship status on social media should be a joint venture.
Moving forward, this is my advice: Take a step or two back. Sure, if you want to keep chatting with him and see him in the future, to see if there is real potential here, do so. He has not shown enough of himself; he has not earned the level of trust that accompanies a committed relationship. And, in general, with anyone you meet online, go slowly. Take the time to uncover who they really are before you give so much of yourself away. You owe it to yourself.
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