We have been friends since we started working together about six years ago. They liked him immediately. My sister even suggested that I date him but I have never looked at him that way. However, it came to my attention through a very reliable source that since that day, they have secretly been seeing each other. At first I laughed and actually dismissed it. I decided to tell my friend the story thinking he would find it silly too but imagine my shock when he told me that it was true.
He said he was tired of hiding and that he loves my mum. I thought I was losing my mind. I confronted my mum and she seems to share the same interest. The woman is 50! She has been single for very many years. My father died when I was still in school.
Yes, I would like to see her happy again, but not with a man 20 years her junior, and certainly not my friend! This is so embarrassing and I wish she would snap out of it.
How can I make them see sense? Such action is even against the principles of natural justice which emanate from the moral standards of uprightness that an individual is expected to exhibit in any social setting by virtue of being human. You must be undergoing a tough situation I guess. The chance, however, is that you have been made aware of this mess earlier enough so before the humiliation sinks deeper, you had better step out of this relationship and let go of both of them.
You are lucky that his true character has been manifested at the right time because, God forbid, if you had also started a relationship with him, it would be a disaster.
It is important that you sit down with the boy and frankly express your feelings about his union with your mum while clearly explaining the reasons why you have to quit the friendship. Respect your mother as your only parent and appreciate her efforts to produce and bring you up but, also, approach her and highlight the likely imminent risks that her relationship with your friend is likely to yield. Your focus should be on the open doors ahead of you rather than the dark closed misleading door.
He wants to be with your mother. Give it time and wait and see how it goes. Maybe this is her time to be happy and she will find love again. She can take care of herself Joan Kifuuko Why are you worrying so much about your mother?
She is older and more mature and knows exactly what she wants. Let her be and care more about yourself. Maybe you need to stop judging her and find a partner as well. Her happiness is what matters Fiona Bigira Your mother is with a person she loves and does not care what people think about her.
What is the point of pleasing people when you are not happy? That man will definitely leave her soon for some younger lady after he has got all he needs from her. Men will always be men. I give it five months before he realises she is too old and boring after he has met a fun girl at a party. Mind more about her happiness instead of who is making her happy.
It is what matters the most. This young man should be dating you and I am almost sure she loves him way more than he loves her. It is only a matter of time before reality checks in and he realises he is spending too much time with someone old enough to be his mother. Age is just a number Yvonne Esteeri She is giving him what he needs and he is giving her what she needs.
Maybe you should focus more on happiness than what people think. Are you saying that your mum has no rights to love? What people will say is also a very lame excuse. I know we live in a demented society but reinforcing the ideologies of what age should be with who is unacceptable. Perhaps living in another country will make you feel better but it will not take away the problem. At 28, you should be able to deal with this and understand that there are bigger things to worry about in life.
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