Hey Cam, Great read! What if you have a family member that is full on drama driven? How do you eliminate them? Does it now turn into a situation of coping? Thanks, Cam October 28, at 9: This is definitely a type of situation you have to approach differently.
This approach has worked well for me in the past. Best of luck and keep me posted on how it goes! If you want to go into more specifics feel free to email me.
Bitter roommate November 5, at 7: I came to the conclusion that I have a very low tolerance for bullshit, which is what I googled and you came up. I am moving out of my apartment and am really fed up with what a rotten and self absorbed person my roommate is. We recently got into a fight because I asked her for her rent after she was 4 days late, and she had a huge attitude about it.
I called her on her bullshit and of course, it turned into a war of words. But in some situations, maybe I should stay quiet to avoid the drama. I guess my question is, at what point does avoiding drama become passive aggression? At what point does keeping the peace turn into being a doormat?
The situation becomes sticky when it is with someone you are bound to, for one reason or another. Cam November 6, at 5: If you find this is a repeating pattern in your life, I definitely encourage you to do some introspection into why you tend to attract these types of people into your life. I know recently one of my friends mentioned that I seemed to have a lot of dramatic girls in my life, and when I dove deeper into why that was I realized it was because when I was able to give them advice and listen, it made me feel more worthy.
This is how you have effective communication. By this I mean, you can focus on the type of tone you use, or even the fact that you are assertive in approaching the situation this is a form of being direct , etc. I guess it comes down to having boundaries in your life.
Most importantly, I would focus your attention on surrounding yourself by like minded people, and although this can be difficult to see sometimes early on at least , I would work on how you can identify the type of person you want to be around sooner than later. For much of my life I have been blind to red flags that were showing up early on in my relationships because I wanted to hope the best for people.
Now I try and see things as they are instead of the way I want to see them. Best of luck, hope the situation resolves itself. Thanks for the question. Responding to these people is what they want…more drama.