I know for a fact that there are some things no one ever tells you about dating in your 20s, and you deserve to know those things. Maybe some of you reading this are in high school or college or in your early 20s, and you want to know what to expect.
The dating world is quite similar to movies and TV shows where you literally cannot go anywhere without finding a hot person to hook up with. Friends with benefits often turns into full-fledged loving relationships.
You will meet someone at a bar or a club. In general, almost none of this is true. Except for the gossiping at brunch with your friends part. That is quite a nice perk to being in your 20s. Good luck out there!
I read this book when I was 19 or 20, and it changed everything. The basic premise is that if a dude likes you, he will try for you. Only some dudes get more mature as they get older. Growing up, I was stoked about dating in my 20s because I thought that guys in their 20s would be so mature.
Is it possible for guys to regress in age as they get older? Because it feels more like that. Many dudes in their 20s end up getting so freaked out by the pressure of commitment that they start to act immature and treat girls terribly. Online dating is not easy in any way. I know a lot of people who are in relationships thanks to online dating — but it takes patience and time.
I tried online dating very briefly, and it was horrifying. I met awful dudes and do not have one positive story from the experience some amusing stories, though. I know people who have stuck with it and ended up meeting awesome people they love now.
So, definitely try it! But know that it will take you longer than a week to find your soulmate. As you and your friends get older, serious relationships become more serious. As your friends enter very serious relationships, they will start to slowly fade out of your life. Going to events without a date is tough.
Every other friend I knew was going with a date except for me. But guys, going to events without a plus one is low-key hard in your 20s. You get invited to a lot of things like that in your 20s — weddings, engagement parties, family stuff, etc. The fear of commitment is real. But there genuinely are people out there who are scared of commitment, and getting through to them can be very hard.
In your 20s, this fear is real. A lot of people have it. And sometimes it really is just an excuse. People will ask you about marriage too often.
Looking back on my single years in my 20s, I am so glad they happened. I learned so much, I had the most fun ever, and I really bonded with my friends. But when I was single? I spent a lot of time pining for a relationship. I cried about being lonely all the time. I felt hopeless and sad and alone. I thought everything would be better if I met someone. Putting your relationship on social media is very overrated.
Before your 20s, you love talking about bae on social media. Pictures, sickingenly sweet statuses, relationshipgoals all over the place. First of all, no one needs to know your business. Second, making things Facebook official automatically makes this more complicated. When I was in college, I relied on my friends for advice every moment of the day. Sometimes your girlfriends will feel like a better relationship than anything romantic.
The best thing about my single years, hands down, was my best friends. We did everything together. We told each other everything. We knew everything about each other. Not impossible, but hard. You should step out of your comfort zone. But give people a chance! Go on a date with the dude who has the job you hate.
Have a conversation with the person who is cute but has opposite political views as you. I tried to blow him off, but my best friend encouraged me to go on one date with him. So I did, and we clearly ended up hitting it off.
When I was a few years younger, I told everyone that I would never be that girl who thought about wanting to get married all the time. Then a few friends started getting engaged, and I started being that girl.
As the people around you get engaged, get married, have kids, and start adult lives, you feel the pressure, whether you want to or not. But you can get through it! Meeting someone at a bar almost never works out. Movies and TV shows make it seem like a bar is a great place to meet someone cute and perfect for you. This is almost never true. A bar is a great place to meet a creepy dude who wants to have sex with you.
What you want in a relationship will change. Not even close to the truth. As you get older, settling becomes easier because you feel more pressure to meet someone. You just want someone there, and so you settle. No matter how old you are, settling sucks. It will happen to you too. But it truly is so important. Which one of these things do you disagree with about dating in your 20s?
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