Wednesday, August 28, Navy Girlfriend Guide: Should You become a Navy Wife? What if your partner is only aware of what it will be like for the Sailor and not for you? What if your partner is only being told the good parts? Or what if your partner might be afraid to tell you anything that would make you worried? So what are the pros and what are the cons? Below is my list and this is a list based on the idea of a Navy Girlfriend becoming a Navy Wife, so keep in mind that certain things like pay, benefits, and college tuition won't apply unless you are married.
Keep in mind all of the cons have a pro so don't freak out reading through the cons list. Make sure you get to the pros too. There is no such thing as a non-deployed Sailor. Most sailors have to do detachments on top of deployments.
The deployments are the long month trips that happen on average every 1. You do get a break from deployments though. It's four years on, three years off. There will be times when you will be sad and miserable with loneliness. You will have to face problems that are not the type of thing you are used to facing, like in my case finding a dead mouse stuck in my washing machine.
That is so a boy type of problem! It's not all bad though, we are just in the cons section. There is a pro to separation too. Everyone works on salary, which means that they work as many hours and weekends as needed to get the job done. Some jobs won't even require 8 hours where others will keep him there hours on a regular basis. The reason for this is that most of the people Navy Wives come in contact with are other Navy Wives and most times Navy Wives are afraid to get close to people because everyone moves eventually.
Plus, you will automatically have less in common with civilians because you have different lifestyles by being in the Navy. A couple actually, enough to warrant bullet points!
You get to have everything your way. You get to do what you want, when you want. If you live with someone or get married, this is actually really nice! You have so much free time, you can take on all kinds of personal goals and projects, like going back to school, or in my case, publishing a novel.
You also get to have a unique perspective on your relationship. When you are apart, it is easier to identify issues in the relationship and re-evaluate how to resolve them without the confusion of being so close to the problem. Most couples never get to experience that more than once.
US Army Africa via photopin cc Medical, Dental, Optometry, Prescriptions, as long as you are married, you and your children will be completely covered. I occasionally had to pay small co-payments, and I had to pay for some larger dental treatments, like wisdom teeth extraction, but man was it nice to not worry about coverage in general.
You also have retirement if he does his 20 years, and you both have life insurance. He also has the GI Bill, which pays for his schooling or yours. Recent changes now allow the GI Bill to be used by spouses and children too. Plus, you have all the benefits on base, like tax free shopping, a big gym, swimming pools, rec center, and other educational and professional resources.
Even when the Navy is downsizing, they don't just kick you out. The Sailor would be allowed to finish his or her tour. Not to mention a plethora of programs that are available for military members and their families to help them in case of a financial emergency or with scholarship funds and even help getting jobs. You will also have a level of financial stability that most people do not have. You get cost of living and extra pay when you have dependents but not per dependent.
There are also other pay pumps depending on location and deployments. Seeing New Places If your partner plays it right, you guys can be moved to all kinds of neat and awesome places.
You could see the world. Those cool destination billets won't always be open for his job either. You don't always get your first choice of where you go. Or like me and my husband, you'll choose to further his career. My husband and I went a total of two places: Nevada and California, which is where we are from, but that was okay because we were near family.
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